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writes:Hello there,I have a girlfriend and she is polite to me most of the time. I do had times that I enjoyed with her and know her family. I do have times that my heart says that she isn't trusting me entirely and lying on me. My girlfriend travels often and I don't have even the option to see all her photographs when she is back (only a selected few). She is happy in travelling alone and she used to talk with other guys too. Once I found that she was spending an evening with other guys while she is on a trip and she says that they are the friends of her girl friend's and she has got nothing to do with them as she accompanied only her. The other time, she used to spend evenings with an other guy. She lied me that he was around 40 years old and that she meant indirectly that there is nothing between them. I found out that he is much younger than what she said. Then, she need few days more to come up with the answer that he is just gay.I also found out that my girlfriend doesn't trust me in money matters even though I used to spend for her almost all the time when we do anything together. I feel that if there is no trust, then there is no love. But, she says to me that she loves me. I am really confused...
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 She could be stringing you along until the next better man comes into her life.
She loves you alright but you are still not the perfect one for her. You are only an option and not her priority at this moment.
In love, there should be trust .Without trust, love cannot exist.
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reader, popeye78  +, writes (19 February 2010):
It can be difficult but maybe you need to learn to trust. Talk to her about these things, its ok for women to have malke freinds.. dont try and control her too much but you do have a right to a relationship with trust and honesty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): if there is no trust, there still is love. if u still feel for her, u stil llove her. but relationships are really hard. im having the same problems with trust in the relationship. look, if u really love her, u guys can work things thru. if she keeps hiding stuff from u, ask her why, expect to kno more, u deserve too, since ur her partner. n if she keeps lying to u, tell her ur not gonna play that kinda game. No matter how bad the truth may be, the lie is ALWAYS WORSE! so just tell her to be honest. for now, i wud keep my eyes on her if i were u. make sure she's not cheating. im havin the same probs wit my bf. he lied to me about his virginity, n now i find out from someonelese that he got a girl pregnant. idk if i shud trust him. but he told me he lied bcuz he was afraid he wud lose me. id wat to do about him.
but the most important part of a relationship is trust, if u cant trust her, break it off. n just be friends for a while, if u feel she has regained ur trust, go out wit her again. but make sure u guys agree to be truthful to eachother.
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