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writes:What can I do ,if my husband can't tell,why does he not want to have sex with me? If there is no medical reason, what else could be the reason, if your husband never cares about sex ,yet he used to. I asked him, he says ,he doesn't know why. He did go to the doctor ,and he is OK. Everything works well, hormones,and heart all fine. He is not drinking and smoking not overweight. I think it is suspicious, but I can't do more. What should expect from him? What should I do? Its been 3 years now.How ca I get a closure on this?
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reader, hlp  +, writes (28 June 2011):
Put the responsibility of fixing this on his hands !
Ask him to book an appointment with a therapist or a priest or someone. If he is not ready to do that, ask for permision to have your needs met by someone other than him.
Stonefaced, this might be enough shake him to life and have him address the situation.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 how long have you been married? maybe he does not find you attractive anymore? maybe he has been unhappy with sex in the past or thought that you were only doing it for his sake and not because you really wanted to. is he depressed? have you been arguing or not getting on too well? is he stressed about work or something? you say his blood tests are fine but maybe it could be a thyroid problem (this can affect libido) and the thyroid levels often have to checked more than once before the abnormal result is found.
if it is nothing physical causing the problem then you need to have a very honest talk to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): 3 years that's over tha max I mean I would be suspicious and do a little investigating but in the meantime make sure your not the problem do things that u normally wouldn't do to make this happen
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 Have you guys talked about sexual needs? Maybe he has needs that are not being met.
Maybe there is something going on in the bedroom that makes him uncomfortable? Is one of you interested in kinkier sex and the other isn't?
Have you changed in some way? examine your own behavior because there may be an answer to your question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): he may be shy, gay, or seeing more weman. just trust him and he'll do it after some time. some guys are just scared of how they proform.
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