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writes:Hey guys! Thoroughly confused here!So essentially, there's a girl who I've liked on an off for a while. On sunday night, we were both at the same party and we started talking. I'd recently (last Friday) been on a date with another girl because I thought I had absolutely no chance with my "crush". Nothing became of this date but the girl on Sunday and I started talking about my date. She became pretty upset quickly and said to me "I thought you liked me" then ran off crying. I spent the rest of the evening trying to calm her down and being honest with her about everything; with the main subject being my feelings (past and present). Turns out she had liked me all the time I liked her too, but we both took the easy option and didn't tell each other - instead choosing short lived relationships (like my date last Friday). Everything went really well. I calmed her down and neither of us did anything we'd regret and we were supposed to go for a date last night (she wanted to more than I did). She cancelled on monday and said it was "better to be just friends" as she didn't want to ruin our friendship should things turn sour. We went out for coffee today (not a date but to talk about things) and she said it's really hard for her to make male friends, and I'm one of the nicest guys she knows... More to the point she's denying that she ever liked me in that way or said that she did.I'm literally so confused right now! If she doesn't like me, why the hell did she care about my date so much? Or me in general? She said the short lived relationships sucked, that it wasn't really her and she was really looking forward to a future with me... yet now she's carrying on as if none of that stuff was said. I told her how I felt about her today and things were pretty awkward I have to say! I'm fine if she doesn't think of me in that way, that's the closure I need. I'm just wondering a) why she said it and b) why she's now denying it....Any advice would be greatly appreciated - thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (4 November 2011):
 My what a confusing girl.
Was this girl inebriated at the party when you two were discussing your date, and she was talking about her feelings? The only thing I can think of, is that she was feeding you lip service while drunk, then was embarrassed the next day so she brushed it off. Or maybe she's that into you, as she thought she was.
Only she knows why, so you would have to call her out on it. Even then she would probably deny it all.
Best to leave it as friends and return to dating.
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