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writes: I am only 13 but I am in love with someone. He says he loves me too by telling me this, but he is going out with another girl. What I am confused about is if he loves me then why is he going out with this girl?I don't know what to do and I need major help as I am really confused. I don't know whether this is something real or just a one-off. I hope it could be something real though, please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): it is important to remember that no matter how someone behaves, it always means more about who they are than about who you are. if he likes you both he may be the type that always needs more than one person diggin him. then there are other types that are happy with one person diggin them and are content and secure. i think when a guy has 2 he is afraid to be alone afraid to put all his eggs in one basket.
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reader, r4nd0menough2luvu  +, writes (27 March 2009):
 Hey ino exactly how you feel. Im the same age. lol n my bf used to cheat on me, flirt with other girls in front of me, and etc. He always said he loved me. Well i broke up w. him. He called bak and said i wanna get back together again. But i just couldn't really believe him. Because he was flirting w. girls in front of me! so i told him its either her or me. He didn't reply. Also he had a crush on other girls used to say there hot and w.e. So anyways he said idk i said when your ready then tell me. It took a little long like 2 weeks. Then he went out w. my best friend. Well we got back together. And he said he was really sorry and i was the only girl for him. Well know were still going out for 3 months. And everything is fine. Also lol *cough*don't try to make him jealous like this ex. I have a bf (after you guys broke up) exspecially if u don't have a bf. Its gonna make him forget about you. So yeah and don't always stare at him. If he really loves you he will call or go up to you and say im sorry and i wanna date you again. Or something like that. So yah just make him know you care about him. Also when you guys are back together let him know you are hurt not in a whiny way. Tell him what you are feeling not bragging way. So he knows he did a mistake and will never do it again. =D
PS: GL ! with your bf .. if you have any more questions you can email me
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Oh gee, you're just 13! You're still a baby. How fast you felt that way?! Don't be in a hurry, it is jut an impulsed feelings. Common, guys are guys. They love expoloring, collecting, testing, name it they have it. " I love you" is not an assurance that your guy will stay as faithful and loyal as you are. My guess, he's still young too! Little girl, enjoy first your teenage life. Don't be serious in that kind of stuff. You said, he is "also" dating another girl. From the word "also", your boyfriend is also having fun with someone's company, so you are!Someday, you'll understand what's the essence of saying I love you, and the meaning behind that line. Just enjoy life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): He don't love you because if he did it would be easy for him to leave this other girl tell him you or her if he cant choose then he dont and if he chooses her he dont love you either
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): ok listen he really isnt here for you.... i am 18 yrs old let it go you are way to young to worry about something like this..but def. not ... get away from him... and no you are not in love there cant be he just has you wraped.. dont let him get you like that you tell him n o im done with you im tired of you playing me.. i just got out of a yr relationship trust me i know all about it... i also have a baby on the way by him ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): i think you should try to move on, if you cant try speaking to him and see what he thinks about his girlfriend or you could try and win him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): I don't understand. Why are you with him? Love means commitment, and loyalty. If he can't give you that, it's not love. Sweetie i'm only being honest, i'm with my boyfriend and we've been together over a year. And i am the only girl in his life, and he's the only guy in mine. If it wasn't like that, we wouldn't of worked out.
He's an immature little boy.
And you can do much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): hey darling
ive had the same trouble im now 18 years of age and my ex also did the same thing he was dating me mon wed fri and alise tue thurs he would say the same thing your bf says to you now
i suggest you say to him infront of his face i hate you and i am disgusted in what you did to me making me feel like you loved me for real but really only a one off
Dump him darling its your best Chance
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): if he really loves u thn he wldnt be seeing any1 else. my advice wld be to dump him nd go out wiv some1 who really respects u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): If you are with someone that has no respect for you by cheating on you i say get rid of them and good ridance to them!!! As they say plenty more fish in the sea!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): hi..my story is a bit strange...i liked a guy and he liked me aswell,,things were going quite well..everyone in the friends use to tease us...but he use to give me too much importances...and i assumed that he loved me,,but he never said that he love me,,then one day he came to my house n told me that he is married and has a kid...i was very upset i cried for few days...he said sorry to me n said can we be friends...and i decided to be friends...but i cudnt stop my feeling...i thought if i will get married i will be fine...so got married...though it was a arrange marriage,,,bt my husband was in a different country...so i have to stay on my own till his visa get sorted...but after my marriage i was still in contact with that guy...and a month ago we stared getting physical...we kissed hug and had oral..but he wanted to make love to me...and i love him so much that i said yes..we made love 4 time since then...now when ever he see me he wants sex...i dont know where i m goin...im very confused...he still say to me he doesnt love me...i need help please...he see me because im alone..i dont know wht to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): The same thing has happened to me and I'm 13 also... Except that I am a guy, and this girl tells me that she loves me very much but shes going out with another guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): hey im 13 too and im in love tooo.what i think is that you two should talk about that and why he is going out with another girl if he tells you that he loves you he got problems
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): Well in my opinion and from experience when someone truely loves you, he doesnt cheat on you. Your the only person he would want to date and he would want to spend quality time with you. If he isnt giving you the type of respect and love you know you deserve, then leave him and find someone who really will love you and treat you like a queen. Dont waste you time on him. Love isnt only saying it, its also showing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): it sad how guyz, are if he really cares he will get rid of this other girl for you and dont take the but i love u
i went through the same thing and i really loved him to but i got rid of him and found someone much better you dont need a boy friend who want more than 1 girl it is sad because u just care so much it just as bad as getting slaped in the face with your emotions but your to good for him and you can find better no girl should ever have to through with it so say to him its me or her and if he says her just break up with him you can find so much better i know it will be hard but it is worth it you should be treated like a princess not a toy hope it helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2007): i have a boyfriend i am 17 and he sed he loves me and he would do any thing for me and i would do the same but i am worried he will find someone else and he also sed he wouldnt upset me and he has broke promises before and i was wondering if he loves me
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2006): you said ur 13 and girls this age say they love a guy wich is nice well i wouldnt really call it love its more of a like because once your older you see that it wasnt love im not saying that you dont love him im saying that i been through something like this with my old ex he told me he loved me but he didnt and at the same time he was going out with a diffrent girl and then i found out i was being used by him when i talked to him after we broke up he told me he never loved me he never cared about me all he told me was that he used to love me so im saying your guy could be something like mine
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2006): i am 13 aswell, and i think i am love but my ex is ringing me and texting me all the time asking to get back with him. i dont know what to do but my boyfriend now, goes out with other girls and other boys. i really love my ex i have since i was in year 7 but my ex is now in year 10 while i am in year 9. my boyfriend never comes out with me and i dont know if it is because i smoke weed and normal cigarettes. i wish i knew what to do.
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reader, trusty +, writes (3 May 2005):
Do not even listen to whoever wrote the rubbish about you not knowing what love is. If anyone or a group of people should know what love feels like more then anyone else in the world and that's teenagers. Teenagers' love is more real than what adult's experience in a lifetime. This can be something real with him, you just need to confront him and ask him what he is playing at and only then you will really know whether or not this is the real thing. But you really should not just sit back and take it from him. He is walking all over you. Stand up for yourself. Hope everything goes OK.
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reader, doomed_in_mb +, writes (27 April 2005):
Oh my dear girl...Why would you want someone who is also dating someone else? You are only 13? You don't even know what love is yet so why are you already leting someone push you around and treat you like crap? If you continue like this at such a young age, your life will be hell.Get out now and be a kid, there is lots of time for guys.
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