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writes: Hi, I am needing desperate help from the cupid bunch. Ok, the problem is that I have a thing for my best friends boyfriend, needless to say, I dont think she treats him fairly and sorry to say that I think I can be better for him. I wish that he was with me because we have alot more in common than he has with his gf, plus I think he would be happier. What can I do to get over this? I notice that I am not as close w/ my bf as I used to, it seems that everytime we talk to each other we want to get on each others nerves. Please help! I cant stop thinking about him!
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reader, bridget +, writes (7 March 2006):
 Hi there.. I think that you need to stop thinking about your best friends boyfriend.. and concentrate on your own boyfriend..You mentioned that you dont think that she treats him fairly.. this does not mean he would be better off with you.. He might be he might not, but this is not the question..The question you should be asking yourself is "Why Am I Not Happy With My Boyfriend Now"????You are being a tad selfish in saying all these bad things about you "best" friend just because you like her boyfriend.. Girls tend to do this so please dont feel bad..You are probably not as close to your boyfriend as you used to be because you have been thinking about this other person and it is really unfair.. You need to make up your mind because you cannot go on like this..You are hurting alot of people (including yourself) and some of them dont know it yet..You should really sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him to see if there is anything you can do to put the spark back into your relationship..and if you dont want to then leave him before you hurt him...You should ask yourself why you like this other man..Is it because you are jealous of the realtionship he is in or because you dont like to see people get hurt (like you say) I think you could try more concentration on your own boyfriend and stay away from this other couple untill you feel you know what you want...I know that whatever you choose you should feel happy and if you dont then its the wrong decision..Good LuckJacqueline
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (7 March 2006):
 You are subconciously distancing your self from your friend as you have guilt feelings about wanting her fella.
You are moving in for the kill without even realising what you are doing.
We all look on at other peoples relationships and can find faults, you say she does not treat him right but he still stays with her so he must be ok with it.
Do you know if he likes you, and does he want to break up ?
If you really want this bloke nothing will stop you and personally I think you have made your mind up to have him and that is that, just make sure he wants you or you could find that you have lost two friends.
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