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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:last year my brother's best friend confessed to me but i told him I only liked him as a friend and he said he understood. I always felt like the timing was wrong because I liked someone else and it seemed like that person was interested too (that never worked out but it's not important). I still hung out with my brother's friend (he was my friend too and classmate), I went out with him and his friend and we had a lot of fun. He would always look after me, kind of like a boyfriend. But he would get extremely jealous when I talked to another guy and he'll get mad at me, I always told him we weren't a couple so he wasn't allowed to get mad at me. So then we'll fight.. but we always make up again. But last year's summer it got really bad and we had a fight at a classmate's party so basically after the party we never spoke again. Now here's where the problem starts.. I started seeing this other guy but I kept thinking about my friend, I just thought I was feeling sad because I ruined my friendship with him.I went on a date with this guy but a few days later he said it's best to end it because he was going abroad for an internship and it would be better for me. I know that's a big lie and the real reason was probably because he felt I was too distant and I just couldn't get myself to really like him. When I got over him school started again and I was okay for a while. My friend got a girlfriend and I had to work with him in a team for a project. We talked again and we had fun, just like last year and I was sort of happy. The year really flew by and and we just stopped talking again just like last year. A few months later I found out he broke up with his girlfriend and I was really surprised because they seemed a good couple. After I found out I began to think about whether or not I made a mistake by rejecting him and this question keeps crossing my mind, it's driving me crazy. Right now, I still don't know if I miss him as a friend or if I really love him. I feel like I want to be with him either way. it doesn't matter what I am to him as long as we can go to places, talk and have fun. This is really messed up and it doesn't make any sense at all. If I liked him, why was I happy for him when he had a girlfriend? And if it was just his friendship, why do I have a hard time liking someone else.. I'm really confused about this and I really don't know how I can fix this..
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reader, heartbroken101  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 firstly i think you should write what your feeling down. keeping all this in your head is definately not healthy for you.
secondly...i personally think you should definately sit down and talk to him about what your feeling and why your confused. you may find out that you really do like him. i suggest in getting to know him and hanging out with him and be close friends. if anything happens from there you will find out.
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