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writes: Hey guys, I didn't get a lot of response to this one (thanks for the advice for those who did). Thought I'd ask again, still driving me a bit nuts...I'm still in love with my ex girlfriend and we hang out on occasion even though she has a boyfriend and has for like 8 months or so (I still think he's a rebound). We get along great when we hang out and laugh and joke and give eachother long hugs when we say goodbye (at first I just thought it was me holding the hugs for so long but the last time I could have sworn that she was holding on too).Also, her BF NEVER comes out to the parties that she goes out to and she rarely mentions him around me. Not only that, she will stay out til all hours of the morning drinking and has even passed out at other GUYS' places, and while I don't believe that she has ever cheated on her guy (she never cheated on me), this is behavior she didn't exhibit when we were going out.Can her relationship really last like this? I'm not dating her, so I try not to be too bothered by what she does and at the same time I almost feel happy that she's going out so much because I feel that it will put a strain on her current relationship and open up the door for us getting back together. I know I shouldn't root against her relationship, but it just seems like an odd match and I think that we have incredible chemistry and can get past the problems that broke us up, not to mention I'm still head over heels in love with her.What do you guys think? Has anybody been in that situation or known someone like that? If I were the guy she was dating, I quite frankly would be very put off by her actions. Thanks for the input guys ...
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Relationships come to an end for a reason..if they are mean't to be the problems would have been sorted out and your relationship would still be going now, you need to think about why the relationship came to an end and whether these things can be sorted as pushing yourself into her current situation could all be for nothing.
She is with someone else, surely if she wanted to be with you she would be, maybe he gives her more freedom and that's why she behaves this way and maybe she is enjoying having a relationship this way maybe it's what she wants and needs right now and just because she isn't acting the same way she did when with you doesn't always mean that she feels less for him than she did you or that she is unhappy in her current relationship.
Could you get back with her if this is the way she wants to act from now on?
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): Hi,
qoute "If I was her current boyfriend I would be put off by the way she is behaving!!!"
Admit it. You stil love her. Because you still care about her. But you have to remember one thing. You are not her boyfriend anymore.
Well that may be hard for you. And I won't tell you to get over it. That's not an easy thing to do.
But think about it:
If she's happy the way things are now....you could be happy for her to.
Good luck!
someguy - Netherlands
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): you admit you are head over heels in love with her. no one is any blinder than some one who doesnt want to see or deafer than those who doesnt want to hear
possibly she wants you as a mate and her new guy is cool with the way she parties possibly you stopped her being herself and that's why she wanted out. to over love some one can be stifling and claustrophobic her boyfriend maybe working and doesnt know or is studying to provide a better future for her who knows she may love you but doesnt want to be with you if she does one of these hugs could turn into more if she wants it too but dont wait too long you could be disappointed she could just be playing games.
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reader, pica +, writes (25 October 2006):
Hmm .. why did you two split up? To be honest I think you need to get over her, get some distance. What's her new relationship to you? If you had been so great together you wouldn't have split up and she wouldn't be with someone else. Suspect this is not what you want to hear though.
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