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*labamaAngel722
writes:I sure hope someone can help me or just tell me it's all in my head! OK here it goes: I was married for 16 yrs got divorced after finding out he was cheating ( He left me and his 4 kids for her) I tried to get back in the dating game only to be cheated on time and time again. I met a really nice guy, who was seperated but still married, which I didn't know at the time cause he lived in another town. He got divorced we started seeing eachother and after 3 years we moved in together. Now he's the greatest guy to me and my kids..I couldnt have handmade a better guy! But..I'm starting to think that he may be cheating on me. He has started acting funny with his phone..not answering certain calls..not looking at texts till he's away from me. When I ask him about it he says the calls are from guys at work and he doesn't want to deal with them and the texts he says are dity jokes or dirty pics that the guys at work send and he knows I'll get offened so he doesn't open them. But he has shown me the dirty jokes and pic before..until just lately. He seems to be working on days that he usly has off, and he doesn't text on those days, says he was too busy. When we would go to bed at nite, he was the type that was almost on top on me sleeping. always holding me...that hasn't happend in weeks. There are other little things that keep me guessing. I once read some where, that if you think your mans cheating he probley is..your picking up on something for good reason. Now I'm not sure if it's true or that I'm just untrustng cause of my past. I would love for someones feed back..anyone to let me know if I should be worried or if it's all in my head!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): Sometimes we think to much, and let our imagination take over reality...
But in my experiences, I have learned to trust my gut! It's usually accurate more than not! As women, I believe we are more intune to our "sixth sense." WE KNOW!
I believe it's time you sit him down and have a long heart to heart with him!
There are too many signs for you to ignore!
Good Luck...keep us posted!
Britt
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 May 2009):
 I can't tell you if it is all in your head, but I do think you should trust your gut. Your gut tells you something is going on. Then most likely something IS going on. What is it exactly I can not tell you. But you do raise some interesting and very typical red flags for a cheater.
Do you try and text him on his "off" but now on days? Does he bring home more money or is he just gone more?
Have you talking to him about how you miss the "cuddling" part of the sleep? and if so how did he react?
You need to be honest with him about what you feel. He might not be showing you the dirty jokes and pics because of how you reacted in the past when he shared them, he might not do it because they aren't what he says they are.
He of all people should know how you feel about cheating. Talk to him.
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