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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Ok so I've decided to that I want to tell the guy I like that I like him, the only problem is I'm not sure if he likes me back and every time I've told a guy I like him it's been met with a crippling rejection (once when I was 12 and another time when I was 15 both through Facebook). I know I'm much older and since then boys have liked me and I think I should do it face to face but my question is how do I approach the question and does anyone have any helpful things to say if it goes wrong to preserve our friendship?
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 OP writes, "Ok so I've decided to that I want to tell the guy I like that I like him, the only problem is I'm not sure"
Stop right there you have decided. For whatever good reasons that you have you have decided to do this. Now you are telling yourself a lot of lies disguised as maybes.
Maybe I will get rejected. Maybe you will get accepted. You don't know, you can't know. One thing is certain if you don't tell him you will never know you will not move forward.
I might lose our friendship if he knows I like him. Your friendship might grow into love if he knows you want it to. One thing is certain if you don't tell him you will have a hollow friendship with a giant secret hidden in it. You don't want that.
Yes do not declare your feelings on Facebook. Do it in a public place with easy exits if needed.
"does anyone have any helpful things to say if it goes wrong to preserve our friendship?" Yes this is what you should say if he rejects you. I like you much to much to continue being as close to you as we are now without hope of something more soon. We will need to be a bit cooler for a while as I get over you.
I'm sure that is not what you wanted to hear. I believe it is what you needed to hear.
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