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writes:Dearcupid i have been with this guy for a year and couple of months,he now want to have sex with me and iam confused.my mind want to leave him but my heart still loves him,i love him so much,he always tells me that he loves me but it is hard to believe him,iam a confused girl who is inlove,and i need help,and he tried to have sex with me one day and we stopped becouse i was not ready,all i want to know is that,is it possible for a guy to dump their partner just becouse they are not yet ready to have sex?and if he dont dump her does it means that he cares or love that person Reply to this Question
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (12 September 2010):
i agree with ray attack the if he loves you hell wait only goes soo far especially if hes already sexually active, a year is a long time to wait i would think that that means he loves you enough to deprive himself of something so pleaserable for over a year.
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reader, Brittany22  +, writes (6 September 2010):
If this guy loves you, then he will wait on you. If he dumps you, then he wasn't worth it in the first place.
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reader, Rav attack  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 maybe you should talk to him about it. if he wants to have sex he needs to realize thats its gonna be a while before your ready. i think itd be wrong for him to break up with you for that reason. but if he did then hes not the one you want to be with. if he says he can wait then thats fantastic. but telling him to wait is kind of selfish. you cant expect him to wait years and years for you to have sex if hes not a virgin. if hes already had sex then sex is part of his dating scence so hes always going to want it. telling him to wait is like torture to him. maybe you guys should think about seeing other people for a little while. you can see if hes the right guy for you and he can see if he really wants to wait for you. either way you guys should both talk about it together.
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reader, Shygirl101 +, writes (2 September 2010):
If he loves you then he'll wait for you..and yes it is possible for a guy to leave you if you dnt have sex..but if hes been with you over a year without sex he probably does care.dont have sex with him just because you think he'll leave you becase if he'll leave you if you dont then he might still leave you if you do have sex with him.you cant hold on to anybody by having sex with them.if they wanna go they'll go..so make sure your ready before you do
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reader, TimmD +, writes (2 September 2010):
 If he is just looking for sex then yes, a guy could dump a girl if she doesn't give it to him. But a guy who just wants sex is not a good guy. Do not have sex if you are not ready. If he really loves you then he will understand and wait for you. If he doesn't want to wait, then you have proof that he doesn't really love you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): As you are a virgin you have the advantage of being able to get over easier without that sexual bond. So dump him and move on. Dont be forced into it.. its never going to be a special experience if that is the case and neither is the relationship if its an ongoing thing. Sex is something you both have to agree to. Consent isn't the absence of denial or forced consent. You dont ahve sex because he wants it and you want him, but because you want it WITH him.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (2 September 2010):
 A man in love who respects you will understand and wait. Never have sex because you want to keep a man, he won't stay and then you'll feel used and abused. Yep, guys can dump you if you don't have sex, but they are not the men you want to keep anyway. Good men understand and wait.
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