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writes: What is it when you love somebody and they don't love you back? After being with my son's father we broke up and still I want him so badly and love him with everything inside of me, and I don't know exactly why. He did me wrong by walking out on us with no explanation why and put me through hell, and when the time came around for him to want to come back I let him. You see I truly love the guy and am not happy without him no matter how many other guys I date, they aren't him and the fact that I have a son with him makes me have to feel I have to be with him. It has to be him because then everything would be like it is supposed to be. In my mind anyways, but I just can't seem to move on. How do I do it or should I fight to try to get him to love me back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2005): Just because you have a child together doesnt mean you should be together.. in alot of cases children sense bad feeling and are better off with their parents apart than together.. you have to come to terms with the fact that you are a mother therefore your childs happiness always comes first in everything you do....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2005): You need to get over him. My partner's ex (which is the mother of his son) desperately wants him back. She is making life very hard for everyone. Coz she still loves him and wants him back she won't accept me. I love his son and treat him like hes my own but in her mind what she wants is more important. She tries and uses the son as a weapon to keep me out of the picture. This is extremely unfair on the son. Its him at the end of the day that misses out because of one selfish person. You seriously need to get over it. You are the one that is stoping yourself from getting over it. You can't make someone love you!
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reader, pops +, writes (9 October 2005):
Please get professional help. YOu may have a common mental disorder that is treatable. You are all involved in " me ", and I didn't hear a word from you here about what the ex. wants. Or what would be best for the child. You are not the architect of the world, or of your piece of it. You can't always have it your way. That may be the exact reason he left you- there was no room in the house for him. Your ego is pushing him away. And how could any other guy meet your mythical standard? If you are going to date other men, you have to take them for who they are, and not how they compare to your dream man. I suspect your ex bf doesn't fit that bill, either. Get some help, before it affects your child.
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reader, Tecate99 +, writes (9 October 2005):
You can't ever force somebody to love you no matter what. It's not going to work.
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