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writes:i am stuck in a loveless marriage. my wife and i don't sleep together nor are intimate with one another. we've basically become two people living together. we definately are not in love with each other. we've been to counselling, but that does not seem to help at all. we can't afford to get divorced...believe me i would if i could afford to, and i think she would want to as well. she is not in love with me and i am not with her.i have been around her sister who is recently divorced, and it seems as we have a chemistry together. i find myself falling in love with her and have been for quite some time now.i am pretty sure she feels the same way about me. she hasn't said anything to me, and i haven't said anything to her. but i can feel what we have for each other. i want to start a relationship with her but i don't know how. i know in my heart that she is the right one for me. i can feel it.and please understand that my marriage has been on the rocks long b-4 the sister came into the picture. does any one have any advise to help me. please be understanding...it's love i feel for her sister, not lust. i have not said anything to her,nor has she said anything to me but i want to. i just don't know how. if i could change everything with magic i would be married to the sister instead of my wife. i made a mistake, now i live with regret and sorrow. please can anyone give me some advise on what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): thankyou to the female reader butterflykiss2u...i have been wanting to have an affair with my wife's sister since january 2007...but i kept feeling guilty about it...next time i'm alone with her (which i hope and pray i still have a chance) i am going to go for it. after all i am unhappily married, if i was happily married and doing something like this i would agree it would be wrong, but i'm not, and i am in love with her and love her with all my heart.
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reader, Butterflykiss2u +, writes (18 November 2007):
Life is too short to be unhappy as I am coming to realize. I am probably going to get bashed here but talk to yuor wife first and tell her you need more in your life if she can't give you more and you really can't get a divorce you do need to find something to make you happy in your life. If it is some type of relationship with the sister so be it. As long as everyone knows the situation and is ok with it your all adults. Start with the talk to your wife you do owe her that much.
If you were to never wake tomorrow wouldn't you have wanted more for yourself?
Good Luck
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 It would not be ethical nor would it be helpful, in current situation, for you to begin a relationship with the sister.
Your wife would go crazy once she hears about it and in the future it would always be traumatic to face your wife.
The best thing is first to divorce. Without you and the sister talking openly about your affection. Later much later, I recommend after you wonder around meet new people, you may decide whether to ask the sister out. It would not solve all the difficulties but make it easier for you and your current wife to get over it. And it would ethically better...not perfect but better.
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