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writes: My girl doesn't want to give me oral sex anymore. But there is this other woman who told me she she wants to give me oral sex. Is there a way I can get my girl to give me oral or do I go to the other woman?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2005): You men are so pathetic, it's always sex with you lot and half the time you guys are rubbish in bed anyway if us girls were as blatant as your lot, you men will have no self esteem.I completely agree with both comments, talk to her find out why she doesn't and if she just generally doesn't want to tell her how you feel and if you can't live without it and there are no improvements- then you should leave her and find someone you are completly compatible sexually with!! But to consider going behind her back well thats out of order isn't how would you like it if you didn't go down on her and she got some guy to lick her out!!
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reader, Starr +, writes (29 November 2005):
I am a female and I think that you are the most disrespectful person I have ever read from.I wish i knew you girlfriend so that i could advise her to leave you alone.If you feel that it is necessary to cheat then you should not waste her time by being with her.Why don't you talk to her.There could be many reasons why shes not doing it.Maybe you aren't clean enough,Trust me I've been in that situation for some reason men don't think they need to wash up before expecting such an act to be done.Maybe you are not turning her on so that she would want to perform oral sex with you.Don't just think that she is slacking because it could be something about you that is slacking.Besides you never know the last guy she was with probably was getting it every single day so before you blame her and go cheat;you need to talk to her and ask her what you need to do to help to the both of you improving your sex life.
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reader, iggyzap +, writes (20 November 2005):
i am a woman and i feel that if you are thinking of cheating on your girlfriend then you need to talk to her and tell her what you are lacking in your relationship. some girls just arent into oral sex but if you make it fun it makes a difference. i think you should try getting a sex game sold at many adult novelty shops or online to add a little spice or even the old ill lick yours if you lick mine because i do not know any female who doesnt like to be licked!
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (18 November 2005):
 It's probably not the best idea to go elsewhere for you oral pleasures. Why would this girl tell you that she would give you oral pleasures anyway? Are you thinking about cheating on your girlfriend? How would you like it if she went elsewhere for any kind of pleasure? Would that not bother you one bit?
I don't see the point of being in relationships if you want to cheat. Why not just be single then you can do what you want. If you don't care about how your girlfriend feels and just want oral sex, then I suggest you just break up with her before you break her heart and hurt her. If she don't want to do this, is sex not good enough for you? Maybe you guys can make a compromise that please both of you. Just give this cheating thing some thought before you go about doing. Think of all the things that would happen based on what you want to do.
There are consiquences to you going and cheating. So you should either stay with your girlfriend and work something out, or just break up with her and go do your thing instead of hurting her in the process.
Good Luck..! Hopefully you make a wise decision in this situation.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (18 November 2005):
 Whether you go to the other woman for oral sex depends on how much you value your relationship with your current girlfriend.
How do you think your girl would react to finding out that some other woman has her mouth around your penis? Pretty badly, if she's like most of us. Or, put another way, how would you feel if you were to find that your girl was getting oral from another man?
The normal responses to discovering that your partner is having sex with someone else are anger, hurt, disappointment and jealousy, so if you decide to go somewhere else for your sexual fulfilment, you're pretty much deciding to write off your relationship with your girlfriend. That's your choice, but do give it some thought. Are the other aspects of your relationship with her enough to make you happy? Will you miss her if she's gone and/or decides to break up with you? Is oral sex really that important?
If you decide that the lack of sexual activity is a deal-breaker, at least be upfront with your girlfriend, and be man enough to break things off with her, rather than sneaking around and cheating when her back is turned.
Alternatively, you could try to get to the bottom of her sudden change of heart about oral sex. Have you tried that? Have you talked with her about what's changed and whether she sees the change as a long-term one? Maybe she's sulking about some other issue and the lack of oral sex is just an offshoot of her anger or resentment. Maybe there's some aspect of the act that she's never liked (like, maybe swallowing). Maybe she feels that "turnabout is fair play" and she's waiting for some attention from you. Are you doing your best to satisfy her, too, including oral? It's possible that if you discuss the issue in a calm and reasoned way, she might be willing to meet you halfway.
Have a talk with your girl and you might be surprised what you find out.
Good luck dear.
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