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writes:Hello, i am 14 years old and i may be pregnant, i want to keep this baby and so does my boyfriend; he says he'll be by my side. But saying all this i dont even know if i am pregnant (im taking the test tommorrow.) Well the thing is my mum knows about me having sex and she did say to me if i got pregnant then i would have to have an abortion or adoption.. I really dont want to do that, just the thought of killing a part of yourself, something you have created or having someone else have it just makes me feel sick. I honestly don't know what to do, i want to keep it - i just dont know how to tell my mum (if i am) and things like that. Please help me. X
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reader, UptonGirl +, writes (2 August 2010):
 its your body and your choice
if you want to keep the baby then you should do what you want to do
abortion could be a way out of it but that decision will haunt you for the rest of your life
if you want to keep the baby then tell your mum that its your choice
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): The first thing you need to do is make sure you’re definitely pregnant.
If it’s confirmed that you’re pregnant, you need to think carefully about what’s best for you and this baby...I would suggest you and your boyfriend get informed. Get some advice from teen pregnancy advisor, who is trained and equipped to inform you of ways to tell your parents of what has happened. You need to firstly, find out what options are available to you. You need accurate information so you can talk through your options and think carefully before you make any decisions. Now I am not from the UK, but there is a service in the UK called "The Connexions Service" which provides help and advice for teenagers in England. For confidential service....phone Connexions Direct on 080 800 13219, or text 07766 4 13219 or go to www.connexions-direct.com. Also, please consider giving the FPA Helpline (Family Planning Association) at 0845 122 8690, a call.
But you need to prepare yourself when you go to your Mother and please talk to her as openly, maturely and calmly as you can. Tell her everything Have your boyfriend go with you as he is 1/2 responsible for this pregnancy and both of you will be the parents. You definitely need to try to have a good, solid sensible plan in place for what this child will need, financially and emotionally, in the next 18 years. You will need Mom's help, and you will need the help from your bf's family as well. So both of you need to think this through carefully in order to tell them all.. exactly how you both plan to support, love and raise this child, to adulthood. Let your families know where your finances and income will come from, who will buy the food and supplies and who will provide childcare for you while you and your bf get a good, solid education. Your famlies will have concerns and likely wll have a lot of questions for you both, as well.
On a personal note, having a baby this young can jeopardize one's educational future, because it is a a fact, that teen mothers are less likely to complete a college education. Please remember, a baby is a monumental task, so if you plan to raise this child, educate yourself, get some teen pregnancy counseling and ensure you have top notch medical care.
Good luck and I wsh you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Hi dear 14 year old.
First of all, take the test and see if anyting happened. It's probably nothing. And then you have to be more careful in the future - use protection - condoms are not hard to find
You are way too young to have a child. If you are pregnant. you need to have the child removed. Is abortion legal where you are? You must talk to you mum, or another grownup you trust about this. Maybe a teacher, or your doctor. It's not fair for you (or for the child) if you should have it
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reader, JayLovesSam +, writes (2 August 2010):
 Hi sweet, 1st of all at 14 you really should be using contraception!, but anyway, you know that and don't need me to bitch at you.
IF your pregnant, its your choice what you do not your mums, but you will need to grow up FAST, you maybe mature for your age. But kind of silly for getting pregnant so young. I would take the following sets. if you are preganant
1/ Talk to your boyfriend alone and MAKE SURE 1000% he will stick by you and that he is ready for such a big responcibility at a young age.
2/ Talk to your mum and tell her what you want
Remember its your choice, just make sure you and your boyfriend are ready.
But dont worry about it till you know for cert, I am sure you will be fine.
Good luck
James xx
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