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writes:First, I apologize if this question is too obvious or stupid. But all through hs and well into college, I dated the same guy. That was 6 years of my life. I don't have dating experience, I'm awkward at it, etc.I would like your opinion on if this guy is into me or not.I met him back in the end of August at a mutual friend's house warming party. We met really briefly, but we seemed to click since he asked for my number. The same night, he texted me. Over time, we exchanged AIM sn, facebook, emails, all modes of communication.Since the night of the party, we have talked nearly every single night, we don't text or call, just IM. He's the one that always initiates contact first. I can't recall a single time where I sent him an IM first. But anyways, we've talked a lot for weeks before finally meeting up for a coffee "date".The meet went pretty well. It lasted about an hour and a half. We talked, we laughed, I think we had chemistry. At the end, we didn't make any definite plans because I had exams coming up the following week. So we just left it as we'll hang out again. No touching, no kissing.It's been a couple of days since we had coffee. We have talked online since. He hasn't asked me out again though he has mentioned a restaurant he loves that I've never been to, and says that he'll take me there because I'd love it.All of this I take as a positive sign that he's into me. But if he's into me, why doesn't he call me? Or even text? It's always IMing. I'm just confused. Also, while he has said we'll go, he hasn't asked me out yet. It takes him so long to ask me out. It took him months before we even went out for coffee. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): I dont see the problem here with why dont you just take the initiative? I mean, he seems to be clearly into you but he is doing all the hard work and not being funny but guys need to feel something reciprocated back. The next time he mentions restaurant or going somewhere just say - yeah that sounds fun, I think I might be free on Saturday (whatever day) why dont we check it out then.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 Yeh, he's def into you IMO
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): Wow. It's obvious isn't it?
You aren't showing him enough attention to convince him that you like him. Yeah you guys go out and have fun and laugh, but how does he know you don't do the same to other guys you go out with?
Maybe he's afraid that if he asks you out or confesses to you that he'll be making the wrong move, that he'll make the relationship between you two awkward?
Let me tell you something - no guy would show you that amount of attention if he didn't have feelings for you.
If you don't show him the sign he's searching for, how can you possibly expect him to do anything about it?
Suggestion: initiate the texts, message him first, call him up one day and say you'd like to just chat. Most importantly of all meet up in real life because over the internet you can't really tell someones true feelings (same goes for you)
Hope this works out
Jason
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reader, bjo84 +, writes (8 November 2010):
He could be a shy guy. He could be cautious from previous heartbreaks. He could just be romantically inept. It's really hard to say from what you described. Maybe he's a really guy. Maybe he's not as into you as you are into him? He may not be looking for something as serious as you are. There is no way of knowing. I think you should play it cool and not fret about it. If he likes you then he will come around. You can't make him do anything that he isn't going to want to do. Good luck.
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