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writes:My ex fiance left me 6 mths. ago after 7 yrs. and immediately became involved with someone else. He broke it off with me a mth. before we were to be married and still claimed he loved me right up to the end. There is no doubt in my mind that he met her before leaving me but, I know for a fact they did not get involved until after. For 3 wks. after he continued to call me everyday giving me false hope and then nothing. I'm also, sure that was an attempt to keep me hanging on incase things didn't work out with her. Once I found out about her I immediately severed all ties with him although, I still love him. 3 mths. after he became engaged to her which has further devestated me but, I have been trying the best I can to move on. The one thing I find disheartening is the fact that he still drives by my house at different times of the day or night. There is no reason to be in my neighborhood other than to check up on what I am doing. If he is so in love with this girl to end a 7 yr. relationship and become engaged so quickly than why is he driving by my house? Could it be an ego thing because I'm not pining over him and have not spoken to or contacted him in anyway in the last 6 mths? Another thing I find odd is the fact that none of his friends were aware that they had become engaged. I found out only because she wrote it on facebook. When we became engaged he was shouting it from the rooftop but, this time he is staying quiet about it. Your insight would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): I would say that if he isn't bragging about it to hardly a soul, then it's not his idea its hers. Shes obviously trying to validate their relationship because she probably stole him from another woman (you). So she's trying to move things along faster than usual so she has him hooked before he has a chance to change his mind. I'll bet he's annoyed with her frantic claim staking on him because he's obviously not over you. He made a mistake and she knows it. I would stay focused on myself if I were you. If he comes back, only you will know if you can forgive him. But I would suggest not going there with again. He'll not likely change and there are better men out there. Good luck. And you can laugh at her all you want, because she's pathetic and scared of what she has coming.
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reader, MaryB +, writes (21 November 2010):
MaryB is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI realize that I need to move on- what I am really curious about which I stated in my question was the fact that since he is engaged to someone else why is he still coming around my place? I am not hoping to take this as a sign that he wants me back. What he did to me hurt me way too much! If he chose to move on to someone else than he should not still be checking up on me is all I am saying. He works & lives with her on the other side of town so there is no just reason to be in my neighborhood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): This might not be what you want to hear but maybe hes just trying to take it slow. I know of some engagements thata ave lasted more than a few years. Maybe they are just trying to make a point that they know where there relationship is going. On the other hand, if tis guy kept you as a second choice: FORGET ABOUT HIM. There are many a guy who will appreciate and love you for you. FORGET and MOVE ON. And if he someday calls you: hang up. Do yourself a favor and start afresh.
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