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writes:Hi everyone. Me ans my ex were together for 6 months but two weeks ago, we broke up. It was pretty mutual I guess, but he initiated it. He said that he didnt want us to hate each other and didnt wanna lose me as a friend and still wanted to hang out. I said that the friend thing will probably not work out and he said "Please lets make this work" He sounded so sad when he told me this and kept repeating that he doesnt want to lose me. I told him that it would be really hard for me, at least right now so we agreed not to speak to each other for a week and then re establish our friendship. I saw him last week and we made small talk for like 3 minutes, neither of us bringing up the friendship status. I havent heard from him since. I admit that I still do have feelings for him, but since he was my first, so I dont want him to simply disappear out of my life. Why hasnt he called? I dont really want to call him because it would make me look desperate and if he really wanted to stay friends, he would call right? Did he find someone else already? Did he just lie to me making himself sound good or does he think im not ready for a friendship?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Hi, m'dear...
It hasn't been terribly long yet. Not to mention, I think it's best if you take a longer break. You still have feelings for him and talking frequently will do you no good. You may want to try and rekindle things and he might not be interested - you'll end up hurt all over again. I think that chilling out for awhile and giving yourself the time to heal from a break up so fresh is a good idea.
So, don't hold your breath waiting for him to call - this will just make you more and more attached to the thought of him and won't help you move on. Get out there, start building your social life back up to full force and when the time is right for you and your ex to be friends again, it will happen.
Good luck, my sweet!
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (23 October 2008):
 It has only been a week? Do you freak out if your other friends dont call you in a week? If you are only friends than you will not be talking to each other as frequently. And if you are friends than there is nothing wrong with you giving him a call just to say hi. Keep it light, keep it fun, keep it FRIENDLY. I know that this is very, very hard. Feeling dont just turn off like a faucet and it will take some time to get used to your new roles in each others lives. But you can do it! Good luck!
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