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writes:I’m in a really confusing situation right now. I'm sorry this is so long, but in order to help you've got to really understand what's going on. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up in February. We started talking about going back out in March, but it never happened. He started dating some other girl a little while after that. I still loved him, but we were cool until the end of May. We ended up making out in a game of truth or dare. That opened up the flood gates for a lot of old feelings. We started hooking up again for the next month. We stopped in July because we both knew what we were doing was wrong. We were just friends for the rest of July and the beginning of August until him and his girlfriend started fighting. We started hanging out more and we quickly became best friends again. He told me that he was starting to realize how much he missed being with me. He tried to kiss me a few times, but I didn’t let him because he still had a girlfriend. We started talking about our previous relationship and what we would do differently if we ever dated again. People kept asking us if we were dating again because we really were acting like the perfect couple. Even his mom told us that she thought we were a couple made in heaven. We still just stayed friends though. His fights with his girlfriend were becoming regular things so I decided to try and cheer him up. He loves stars so I took him out to watch the meteor shower a couple days ago and it was fantastic. We ended up making love under the stars. It was the most romantic thing ever. It would’ve been the perfect date. The only problem is we aren’t dating and he even has a girlfriend. I told him that he needed to choose between me and her. He said that his mind was split 50/50. That half of him really wanted to be with me again and the other half wanted to try to work things out with his girlfriend. He decided yesterday that he was going to stay with her. He kept saying that it wasn’t that he didn’t want to be with me. I just don’t understand what the means. If he wants to be with me then he’d be with me. Simple as that. Right? I guess I just need a second opinion on this. Preferably a guys point of view, but at this point I’ll take anybody’s. I know that most people will say that he’s just using me, but he’s really not. I don’t know how to explain it exactly. I guess you just have to know us to know that he’s not, but even people who use to tell me repeatedly that I was just being used have changed there mind. They all thought we really had a chance this time because he’s changed and he’s grown up a lot. I just wish I knew why he didn’t give us a chance this time. Does anybody have any idea what could be going on in his mind? Please help me! I’m so confused right now.
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reader, xAx  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 There's a book you need to read. It called 'He's just not that into you'. It makes a lot of sense and shall help you.Please read, i very much enjoyed it and it helped me.( but what i'm basically am saying is, he is just not that into you( also it has been made into a film, but the book is more detailed and a good buy).Hope this helps X
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Give him space to figure things out, and do make him choose but don't wait around for him and don't ask him repeatedly. Just once more and tell him that you'll give him his head space to figure things out. He doesn't sound like he's using you; he just sounds confused, and his confusion is confusing you, too. Sometimes couples can be right for each other, but they start dating at the wrong time. Maybe the last time you two dated was the wrong time and if you two go out again, it could be the right time and things will go on differently. He sounds like he's changed, but do be careful. He is still cheating on his girlfriend with you and make sure that if you go out with him again that you know that could easily happen to you, too. Just be cautioned and if you two end up together, congratulations. If you don't, then move on. Good luck.
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