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writes:I'm 20 and have a 7 month old son. I can't seen to get over my boyfriend, when he says he's leaving me I feel so heartbroken and upset I don't know what to do with myself. He always come back and hasn't said he's leaving in a while but today he said he is even though I haven't done anything.He's not coming back because it's his day off and he went out with his cousin at 11am we'd had a bit of a row so I didn't ring him and just left him to it so he rang me at 12.30 saying he'll be home soon and at 2.30 I rang him because I wanted to do something with our son aswel and he went in a horrible mood with me saying I try to control him and never let him do anything. Which isn't true it's the other way round. I only get mad and upset when he knows I wanted to do something but he still says he'll do something else anyway, recently I've just let it go over my head and he usually ends up doing something with us anyway. But his cousin really stirs and uses him anyway.It's not like he treats me well, sometimes he can be nice and it's all good. Alot of the time he insults me. Recently I've lost alot of weight. I didn't have any weight to lose after having my son but have been taking him on long walks for exercise to feel better about myself after he called me fat alot when I knew I wasn't. Now he says I'm too thin and I need to sort myself out. He'll say I'm ugly to annoy me then after a few hours when I ask him something like does he not like how I look he'll give me a horrible answer and say if I ask gay questions I get them answers. That just makes me feel worse.If he loved me at all why would he treat me so bad and want me to feel so bad about myself. I love him so much and would never treat him badly or insult him. I'm not the kind of person to say things like someone gorgeous or whatever but if he looks nice I'll tell him which is the type of thing I wish he would do.I think I'm scared of him finding someone else because I know he could straight away. I think it'd be alot harder for me and my son will always come first. I really don't know what to do anymore. I've tried taking to him but he probably doesn't care. I don't know if councelling would help me even if he didn't come with me? I have alot of issues about myself which is from bad relationships. They all seem to put me down. My friends all say I'm too good for my boyfriend from how he treats me and they think I'm better looking than him but I really can't see it. I really can't imagine how my boyfriend must feel about me to be like this.That was probably quite alot of rambling.
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reader, Dragonflycatcher07  +, writes (8 April 2011):
I know how you feel, but I don't have a kid. It must be harder to walk away. Truth is, we end up depending on someone so much we're blinded to the reality that we're being taken for granted and unappreciated. We stay, when deep inside we know we're being mistreated because that's all we know. One day you will realize it all and you will start loving yourself to know better and know you deserve to be loved the right way. I hope things work out, but if they don't just know your son is blessed to have you. You're worth a lot and once you believe that you will be free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): You need to dump this idiot and get on with a much more wonderful life without him! He is worse than a jerk and doesn't even care enough about you to work on your relationship, let alone treat you with love or respect. Don't put up with him for one more day.
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