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writes: Hi there, I have a good relationship with one of my male friends to the point that I love him. We get on great have lots of fun (not intimate) but at the moment he is happy being single and doesnt want a relationship. We talked and agreed that we were going to continue as we are as friends and see if it progresses into something naturally which is unplanned and not rushed. He is aware that im in love with him also. My problem is im too sensitive to his moods and lately I have got worse, if he is quiet or distant I blame myself. I am not sure as to why he has these moments where is is quiet and subdued he said he is fed up with work but im starting to think that maybe its me, when I ask if its me he gets annoyed. Sometimes he ignores my text messages which winds me up (normally when he is going through these down patches where he is not talkative)then a few hours later he will phone me and is fine with me. I know he came out of a long term relationship end of last year which affected him badly. Because I never knew him when he was in the relationship I dont know how badly it did affect him and I dont want to ask. What I dont want to do is end up being too in his face getting at him and pushing him away. Any tips as to how I can handle this. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): Hi, What you need to do is step back He's been very sweet told you the truth he's told you what he wants to do and you've responded by coming on far too strong I'm sorry to say!
Give him space for oxygen! He doesnt want to be in a relationship at the moment why? He simply doesent! but you are Txting him loads and stuff, isnt it enough that you've spilled your heart out to him your still txing him and getting mad when he doesent respond,
I am speaking as an Honest person now, If you stepped back stoped txting, Stop reacting to one persons change of mood, you would be a lot happier and he would want to be around you more garrenteed It sounds like your treating him more as your man now, and less like the simple friendship where you just want to make eachother smile,
If you start being casual he'll come your way why? because men are hunters and he'll want to chace you, And try and make things romantic beetween you and he'll miss your txt messages good Luck,
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (31 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
He most proberly means what he says when saying his fed up with work ..like everyone things in life get us down and prehaps his still not really over his ex,but doesn't want to burden you with his problems..and maybe seeing as you love him, you may be putting presssure on him by asking him whats wrong all the time, he may need space depending on how ofen your in contact with eachother and he may feel awkward knowing you love him, and he does'nt feel the same way..my advise would be to maybe back off a little if he is in one of his moods then just say to him ..'you know where i am ,if you need me and if you ever want to talk to me about anything i'm always here for you'..then wait until he calls you.
xLEAHx
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