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writes:I was dating a guy for around 2 years, and we have a 5 mth old baby together. We stopped dating about 6 mths ago when he got together with his current girlfriend. He says he has no emotional feelings for me, but has been cheating on his girlfriend with me for the past 2 mths. He says he loves his girlfriend and wants to stay with her. I would like to know if he loves her and has no feelings for me, why would he cheat on her with me? And keep doing it? I still have feelings for him so it is hard for me to say no, even though I know I am in the wrong also. Reply to this Question
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (25 December 2009):
Men can have sex with another woman and not even care about her. She can be just an object available for him to use and build his ego on. He is using your body. He is living the American Dream basically. If you want him to even take a second look at you as a woman he can respect and care about then you need to stop allowing him to use you. Just tell him no. Do you really want to be with the kind of man who can abandon you and his baby for someone else? You need to start putting yourself first and get a real man who deserves you. Think with your head (logically), not with your heart (emotionally). All the best
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 December 2009):
You're not really in the wrong at all. What a cruel selfish man you have in your life. I think you need to look at your own life just now and focus on yourself and the baby. I'm afraid to say he's using you, and no he wont' leave her to come back. He's got the best of both worlds. A woman at home cooking for him and giving him sex, and a woman elsewhere giving him sex that he doesn't have to commit to. I'm sure you love him, and I'm sure you want him back, but take my word for it, you must end this now. He is using you because he knows he can use you. If he loved you, he would be with you. He's a very cruel man and you can do better. Instead, focus on your new baby, who will need his/he mum to be happy and in charge, and focus on your own life. You'll find a guy who is so much better than this.
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reader, klc5252 +, writes (25 December 2009):
my guess is that he has no real feeling for either of you, only for himself.. have his cake and eat it too right? you keep letting him treat you that way and he always will. have a relationship for that baby and the rest zero, unless you like self torture. this man not a good one and you need to know and tell yourself you can and do deserve better, surround yourself with only ones who believe that to keep you strong. you can do it
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