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writes:So, I've been working alongside my colleague for a year. He has a lovely girlfriend and I'm sure he's very happy with her. However recently I have come to realise that there is something more there. He knows everything about me, and I about him (result of working together so closely). We no longer work together but I miss him so much, and not in the way a friend misses a friend, but more. I feel awful because I know he has a girl, and basically this all rides on me. He's such a great guy, he'd never do anything to hurt his girlfriend, but i know that he's attracted to me. If anything were to happen it would have to be initiated on my side. What do i do? I dont want to be a bitch, but i'm quite convinced that i love him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi
So I've been out of direct contact with my ex colleague for about 2 months now, yesterday I got the mail saying he liked me as more than just a friend. I know he has a girlfriend, and I have no right to jeopardise her happiness. So I mailed back saying he was probably confused about it as we've gone from seeing each other every day to not at all, I know he's not used to i and its probably just that he misses me a lot. I know I miss him tonnes.
Was itthe right thing? Or should I have just kept my mouth shut?
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reader, lexilou +, writes (9 August 2008):
 If he was decent he would knock you back, if he doesnt does that mean he is not a decent bloke?? Would you ever be able to trust a man that got with you by cheating, what would stop him cheating on you in a few years.
Leave him alone, as hard as it is he IS taken and his girlfriend has nothing to deserve this. Try and put him out of your head and meet some new people and hopefully you will feel this way about someone else who is available x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know this, thats why i keep backing away. I think about it from her perspective all the time :( i just miss him a lot, and want some one to tell me otherwise.
Thanks for reinforcing what my consience has been telling me :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know this, thats why i keep backing away. I think about it from her perspective all the time :( i just miss him a lot, and want some one to tell me otherwise.
Thanks for reinforcing what my consience has been telling me :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): BUT he has a g/f that he's in love with. If he's such a decent bloke, he wouldn't touch you. Now how would you feel if you had a b/f and some girl tried to steal him from you? wouldn't feel great would it? now look for a single guy
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