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writes:Just to make things clear, I consider myself bicurious, and I came to be okay with that when I fell for a friend of mine. She's also bisexual. She's someone that hasn't had a lot of people truly care about her, so I was kind of a new thing to her. We were together for 2 mths. when she called it off. She told me she didn't want to lose her best friend(me). It hurt, but I understood that's what was best. Since, I've gone back out with and been dumped again by my ex-boyfriend. But I don't even miss him. I still miss her terribly though. To top it off, she moved away a few weeks ago. We still text one another a bit, but that's all. I loved her, and still do, but I never told her. I've tried to stop feeling this way, but it hasn't helped much. I'm just not sure what to do about it.
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reader, Lonannuniel +, writes (20 August 2008):
Lonannuniel is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't expect a relationship out of it at this point, but I still feel like maybe it's important for her to know what I'm thinking and feeling. And I suppose even if it isn't recieved well, it will certainly put me one step in the right direction towards moving on. Though I think I will put it in a letter. I was always better at communicating such things through written word, and I was planning on mailing her something anyways, so I can just put that with it. And you're very right- if I don't do it, she'll never know, and I'll be forever wondering, "what if...?" Thanks so much for your help. I really appreciate it a lot! :)
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reader, shambles  +, writes (14 August 2008):
iv had a similar experience with a friend of mine..except i told her i had strong feelings for her. even though i was terrified of doing it im glad i did as it took all the weight i was carrying off my shoulders..and she really appreciated my honesty were still really good friends and even though i was honest with her our friendship is even stronger. Okay were not in a relationship like i hoped but at least i now no what if rather than just wondering it. even if you dont get the response your hoping for at least you will be able to say you gave it a go.
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reader, Lonannuniel +, writes (11 August 2008):
Lonannuniel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha, that wasn't exactly helpful, but it certainly cheered me up with a laugh so thank you. :)
Reading back, I also realized I wasn't very clear on my question. I was wondering if I should tell her now or not? A friend of mine suggested I write a letter to her, explaining everything and how I felt, but I'm nervous of how she'd react to it. I would really appreciate some thoughts on the matter. Thanks.
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reader, saulgoode18 +, writes (9 August 2008):
as a shy person i also have this problem minus the bi curious, but the best way to tell your girl is by being who you r and use the shyness to your advantage. look at all the ladies hugh grant gets.
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