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writes:I've been friends with my guy friend for years over the internet, but he lives hours away. We've met up twice, and we acted just like we were going out - he brought me lunch, payed to go to the movies, he was hugging and kissing me - the one initiating everything. It's made me fall for him even more, he's so sweet, romantic and my idea of a perfect guy.However, as he lives miles away we don't see eachother much (although I'm moving nearer him next fall - I'd be 40 minutes away from him then - Ive got a new job, but he might be joining the forces). He's always the one that compliments me in e-mails and says the sweetest things, but I know he's had 2 girlfriends (Jodi and Mckenzie) since we last saw eachother (5 months ago). I'm going to see him in 2 days, and we've spoken about sex and stuff, and I'm wondering, if anything 'does' happen... is he just using me? Or do you think he does have feelings but the distance (at this present moment) makes it difficult? He knows the way I feel about him, but he's never really said how he feels towards me. I'm just so confused at the moment. Could anyone enlighten me?
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reader, lacexoxo22 +, writes (19 December 2008):
 I'm gonna say that he's using you. I think that you are his "Plan B". I think that he has another girl, if not more, that he's on a more serious note with. When that girl, or girls, aren't available...he calls you, e-mails you, wants to see you. You see what I mean? Not saying that he doesn't like you, I'm sure he does, he may even care about you, but not enough to take things more seriously with you and make your "relationship" exclusive (making you his ONLY girl). I would suggest that you don't have sex with him, regardless of what he says or does. I think it's a really bad idea and your setting yourself up for failure. He's not gonna be the "boyfriend" you want him to be. He lives far (even though your moving closer and I hope to God your not moving closer JUST for him) and things just seem to "wishy-washy" with this guy. Now if your the type of girl that can just have casual sex and leave it at that, not expect anything from him OTHER then sex, then by all means have at him, just be sure to use a condom and get on the pill just to be EXTRA sure. But if your a virgin or haven't been with many people or in a lot of relationships, then PLEASE just leave this guy alone and move on with your life before things get complicated and before you end up getting hurt. Good luck and I hope this helps.
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