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writes:Hello ,I would like to ask a question if a man you liked was not really intersted in you and asked to be friends with you. Would it be right to be friends with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (13 February 2010):
 oh, and I forgot to tell you that if you continue with the friendship you will be constantly reminded of his rejection and you will not feel desirable.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (13 February 2010):
in my recent experience...no. move on. I tried the friends route and the two of us became best friends. He found a girlfriend and I got kind of silly about it but we continued the friendship, the three of us.
Our friendship did fade away and it's more him wanting it than me because I am no longer interested in him romantically. I know I hung in there hoping he would change but he didn't. I have moved on and now only wish I hadn't wasted the time or the energy trying to change a leopard's spots.
If you truly wanted a romantic relationship (and secretly still do) then the friendship will only serve to hurt you and you will not heal or move on.
The only way you could be friends is if you had some time away to heal and process it and if you truly want only friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): It depends how much you like him. If you have romantic feelings for him it wont work, you will just make yourself miserable and put unfair pressure on him to go out with you, when hes made it clear he doesnt want to. If however, you just like him and enjoy his company then be friends! Wheres the harm? Just never, never have sex with him, stick to the friends agreement unless he and you decide to take it further and become an "item". If you give in to sex but hes still not "interested" in you ,it will make you feel bad about yourself and it wont do you any good at all.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 February 2010):
You're going to try and spend as much time as possible with him and hope he changes his mind.
Chances are he won't.
You'll miss out on other guys because you are focusing on him.
He's trying to be nice, but you need to get over him, not closer to him.
Good Luck!! xx
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