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writes:Hello everyone.I just have a question. I hope to hear from some men as well.When a man tells you he will miss you (he is going away on a trip for a week)..... is this a good sign that he has feelings for you/has an emotional connection to you? Or is it only because he is physically attracted?I don't think guys go around saying something like this very easily... unless they mean it.What is your opinion?Thanks. :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat do you mean, Female Anon? I am European in background. I have been to many parts of Europe. I know well enough the men in Europe are the hugest flirts on earth and have more than one woman on the hook at a time or they are always trying.... Open relationships are very common in Europe. In the States, we are more than capable of being in committed relationships. Open relationships are not the norm. It is not necessarily a cultural thing either. It is between the people involved. Because open relationships and committed relationships exist in every culture. Depends on the people in the relationships and what they are seeking.I do believe that when a man is the one who asks you to be exclusive, it means something. If he did not want to, he would never ask, never approach it and never even think about it. If he was interested in playing around, he would do all that he can to avoid that subject for as long as possible. He would never be the first to bring it up on his own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2013): I deffinitely want to answer this question. You live in a country where it's ok to date, meaning to have several people that you are seeing. But not all men all over the world are like that and not all women. In majority of the world to take a girl on a date means more than may be she will bethe one or may be not as soon as she give me sex I don't care. In many Europian countries when men date someone they just date this person, especially when it comes to sex. So called term dating in States means sort of open relationship. Thought men in majority think its ok to have several sex partners at the same time, they don't go around all the women they date and tell them about other his dates. I wonder why?! Because he knows it's not the way it should be, and if he does it he will likely loose all of his so called girlfriends. I think you have a right to expect some commitment from this guy. You have sex, you date for 2 months. But if he is from your country and has the same attitude as wise owl who knows, may be you are just one of many.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (15 August 2013):
 If he's made the decision to be exclusive with you, then there's already an emotional connection. Guys don't do that if they don't genuinely like you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 August 2013):
 I think OP you are over-worrying.. you are exclusive and have a good relationship. I'm sure he meant it.
stop trying to second guess him and take his words at face value if they match his actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2013): I'm going to give you the benefit of a man's advice. Women approach connections with men, differently from how we approach potential relationships with women.
Women will usually consider it a "relationship" if a man "dates" them for three or more times. They consider sex as sealing the deal. They assume he shouldn't be seeing other women from this point on. You may be jumping the gun.
Men don't feel that way. He may not consider himself in a relationship for several months. He considers his options open; until he puts his commitment in words to you. Then his commitment is solidified by his actions. He then feels the relationship is monogamous, and he will stop seeing other women. You can commit whenever you like. That doesn't speak for the both of you.
You all can beat me up, and throw rocks.
Then you explain why guys abruptly disappear, stop communicating, or get distant?
It's because you get ahead of him and try to call it a "relationship" before he does. Men prefer their freedom, and value it more than you may want to accept. We don't interpret a series of dates and sex, a committed relationship. You're the girl, or guy, we're dating.
I've offered my advice. Take it or leave it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been exclusive for two months and have had sex etc. I am asking because he is really physically attracted to me and we have the most amazing sex together. But we also talk a lot and share a lot and above all we LAUGH together and just have the best time. I am wondering if he is developing an emotional connection to me as well... especially when he says he will miss me. He did not have to say this.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (14 August 2013):
Can you give us a little more background on your relationship with the guy?
If you two are just platonic or have been flirting up to this point, then I'd say that his words are indeed indicative on an emotional connection to you.
Make something happen when he comes home!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello all.
This is a guy I have been seeing for the last two months. We have had sex and we are exclusive.
Just wondering if he has or is developing an emotional bond towards me by feeling he will miss me when he is away...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 August 2013):
All he said was a polite "I'll miss you"
it may mean "i'll miss seeing your smiling face"
it may mean NOTHING and is just a polite way of saying.. see you after vacation.
or it may mean "I'll miss undressing you with my eyes"
GUYS may or may not say stuff just like GALS may or may not say stuff...
the ONLY rule I can think of is do not base how a person feels on what they say... base it on what they do...
is this a guy you have a crush on that you wish would reciprocate your feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2013): Whoa!!! Slow down. Don't read everything into it.
Physical attraction is a natural human response, and doesn't have to include any emotional connection.
He said he misses you; because he is fond of you. Don't thrust yourself into "love-mode" and developing deep feelings on words that are at-most, "inconclusive."
It is safe to believe he is fond of you. It is good to know he misses you. Don't go getting your hopes all built up.
Take it slow and easy, and let things progress at a reasonable pace. Let his feelings catch up with yours. You obviously like him a lot. Don't let desperation make "like" mean "love." They differ by degree and depth.
He'll let you know how much in good time. So gently pump the brakes, until you have more to go on. Don't let your feelings go anywhere until you know for sure you're both on the same page.
If you have to "guess," there isn't enough evidence. Others may suggest telling him how you feel. I recommend that you let him pursue you a little bit. Then you'll get your answer.
We men want most what we can't have.
Good luck, my dear!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (14 August 2013):
 I kno when I say that and believe me its rare yes it means I feel at least an emotional connection.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (14 August 2013):
 Its hard to tell from what he said, and the tone he said it in. I sometime's say to some girl's when im leaving Love you lots, but this does not mean i love them, to me its just a term of endearment. He could very well have feelings for you, but also its something he might say to alot of people who he is not seeing for a week. Look out for other signs too, his body language, does he act different around you than he does with other girls.
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