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36-40,
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writes:When a man calls himself a s**t , does that mean he thinks he is a horrible person, and that he thinks you are a nice person and he feels bad for treating you badly ?. This is about someone i was seeing. We saw each other for two months, and he stopped contacting me without telling me why. When i bumped into him once, he said this about himself. And, if a man knows this about himself, why doesn't he try to make himself a better person ?. And, if he thought i was a nice person, why did he stop contacting me and not explain why ?. It's so confusing !. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2011): he probably has had bad experiences with women. that's why he's ashamed he can't live up to his own expectations in treating you. he's just a person with no confidence, and therefore gave up in pursuing you because he believes it will go nowhere OR he has nothing to offer you as a person and thus feels "bad" about himself.
*huge generalization*
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (6 August 2011):
Perhaps he's wrestling with his inner demons and feels you shouldn't be involved. If that's true, then you should give him the space needed. A person can't change overnight. It takes much time and patience, as well as, strength and determination. As for not giving an explanation, I admit that was a little rude. Did you ask him why he stopped contacted you? Did you two sit down and have a proper discussion? If he is having some issues regarding himself, maybe he wasn't sure how to put your break up "into words." I know its not good to base conclusions on the "perhaps" and "maybes" and what ifs", but given the time you've spent with him, what are the possibilities as to why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2011): He knows you didn't deserve his vanishing act, he's probably ashamed of himself now.
Maybe hes matured enough to face telling girls its not working out nowadays maybe not - its not nice when men just go silent and we never see them again.But it happens alot.
I wouldn't worry about him, its just a lesson learnt.
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