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writes: Why is it that I cannot commit to my relationship?I know that she is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. We have been together ten years and are now on the brink of separating becouse I have some anxiety and worry of where I stand in the big picture of the relationship and how my partner sees me placed. I have built walls to protect myself but they are stopping me moving forward and fully immersing myself in the love we share!Please could you tell me what I should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2005): You need to stop and picture where it is that you would like to end up with this person in the future. If it is not what you had in mind maybe you two should talk and try to explain to her your feelings.Let her know that you are drawing up a blank when you think of the "big picture."Men point things out and find things not to like about the women they are with when they are deeply in love, due to the hidden fear that this person might be the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with. It sounds like you are afraid of the commitment. If you have been together for ten years, what are you waiting for? After all, you love her enough to give her ten years of your life, and that's a long time! If she hasn't hurt you in ten years, why would she start now?
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