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writes:Okay, this is a bit of a general question although it does apply to my current situation. If you feel as though a relationship with a girl isn't going to work for some reason, ie you aren't compatible, should you forget asking that person out, even if you get on well and are attracted to them?There's another question as well, if you are almost certain that someone you like doesn't feel the same should you give up to prevent rejection.I know I have explained that really poorly, but any help is greatly appreciated.Thanks in advance :D Reply to this Question
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reader, Universe Man  +, writes (18 May 2010):
Getting rejected is part of being a man and going after what you want. If you only pursue girls when you are certain that there is no possibility of rejection, then really you are letting the girls do the choosing because you'll only move forward after they've stuck their necks out and made their intentions clear. That's not the way to find the right girl. Don't look for excuses NOT to pursue relationships.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 May 2010):
If you think it won't work out from the start, then it's not worth taking it any further, because all you will think about is it not working out.
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reader, marnan +, writes (17 May 2010):
It appears that you are keen on a girl but not sure where you stand, therefore it may be a good idea to ask her out for a drink, ten-pin bowling or whatever. If she says no, ask if there is chance you can arrange a meeting another time, again if she says no, then she is not interested in you. In this case count yourself lucky that you haven't wasted any money on her. Yes you will feel down but admire her for her honest answer and then let if be. If she says yes, go for it. Ask her what she would like to do (bowling can break down barriers as you don't have to spend time thinking what to say next.) Make sure your well presented, on time(and if you think your going to be late ring and explain why.)Being amusing can be good but not too much otherwise she could become bored. At the end of the date as if she has had a good time and tell her you would like to meet up again, leave her with your number and then leave it up to her. If you don't hear from her, but do see her, ask her out again and you will know from her reply whether she is really interested in you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): For the first part why would they not be compatible if you were both attracted to eachother and got on really well? If they made you happy then go for it and ask them out rather than dwelling on what might happen, you can't really predict how anything will turn out you never know how things change or develop. For the 2nd question I would really make sure that person didnt like me first, if they were giving clear signals of disinterest then yeah move on, but if you're not that sure then spend more time with them to gauge how they feel.
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