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Ideas to make my sex life more fun and enjoyable for both of us....

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Question - (19 April 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 19 April 2011)
A female United States age 36-40, *izzy3125 writes:

Please help me, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend and after that we have been having sex everytime we have a chance but this las time my boyfriend asked me what would I like him to do do for me or that we should try something neew, and that he really would like me to come or have an orgasm because is has never hapen. I am a really shy girl and I have no experience he is my first sexual partner so I didn't know what to answer. He is so open about his sexuality and he is not shy at all, so please help me with sme tips to not bored him or how can he make me come.

I pretty much need ideas to make my sexual life more fun and enjoyable for both of us.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (19 April 2011):

chigirl agony auntHe wont be bored with you. Just be honest with him and tell him that because you have no experience you do not know what to do. Im thinking he doesn't have a lot of experience either, or is overly polite, since he asked you instead of just doing something and check your reaction.

Talk to him about oral sex, and him fingering you and touching your clitoris. He needs to explore your body and find the places that excite you and turn you on, that is the only way he can ever make you come. He is the one who needs to do the work to make you come, not you. This normally includes him giving you oral sex.

Talk about things to do together, not separate. If he wants to try something new he needs to suggest what to you, and you and him need to talk about it.

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A male reader, Illithid United States +, writes (19 April 2011):

Illithid agony auntIf he hasn't done much oral for you, that's the best way to help a woman climax. The majority of women either cannot orgasm from penetration or have great difficulty doing so... And if your guy's like many men, if can be fun for him too to give you oral.

Barring that, different positions (doggy, missionary, cowgirl, there are many to choose from) can help, as can leaving the bedroom. Have you considered a shower with him?

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A female reader, klapure4 United States +, writes (19 April 2011):

klapure4 agony auntHello! I would suggest referring to some books or articles on how to make sex more fun. You have many ideas to pull from those resources, and then make a decision that's right for you and him. Since you guys are just exploring intimacy together, I would suggest incorporating some mellow music you both love, candles, fruit drizzled with chocolate, or whipped cream. I've even heard ice cubes are great turn-ons in the bedroom. However, I wouldn't recommend it! I'd think with his experiences, he can help with this matter to make it enjoyable for both of you.

I hope this helps!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011):

Well ways to increase your guys sexuality is I would recommend trying new positions out. My most favorite is the "Missionary" the position where the girl lies on her back and raises both legs up on top of his shoulders while the man penetrates the girl. this gives the deepest penetration and I would always make my previous ex catch an orgasm every time. If you guys already done that already, then maybe a little oral will excite him, guys do love the idea that their penis is inside their girlfriend's mouth...... Yeah Doesn't take a lot to excite them.

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