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writes:So, I'm new here and this is my first question. First, thanks in advance for any advice that is given. Here goes, I'm 24. I'm very happily married with two gorgeous children. I always thought things were as close to perfect as my wife and I could get them, however, two days ago my wife told me that she is bored. She's bored with our sex life, she's bored with life in general I guess. Now, I'm sure this is a somewhat common feeling after having been married for a while and she is more than willing to work through this little rut we've found ourselves in. So, in talking with each other trying to figure out what we can do to work our way out of it a few things came out into the open.1. She enjoys talking dirty to other men on the internet. She says that this gets her horny in the same way that watching porn with me does. Now, I don't think I have much of a problem with her "teasing" other men so long as it never goes any farther than that. She was honest about wanting to do this and I have actually watched her do it before and, for whatever, reason was actually turned on by it. Anyway, she has never lied to me about anything I have no reason to suspect this is anything other than what she says. I suspect she gets the "I'm being naughty" feeling when she does this. Knowing you're doing something you shouldn't be is often rather exciting.2. She very much enjoys me taking charge in bed. She likes being "forced" to do certain things and loves it when I take complete control.All I want is to please my wife and here is where the problems start. I was a virgin when I married my wife. She was not. In all honesty she would have probably fallen into the "whore" category. She and I are madly in love but she says our sex life has just gotten boring. She doesn't want the passionate love making we've grown accustomed to. I don't know any man that doesn't fantasize about "taking" a woman and having his way with her. The problem I have is that my wife is kind of skiddish when we talk about it because she doesn't really "know" what she wants. She says she just wants it rough, now I can gather the basics for myself. Hair pulling, spanking, and pinching. She's into all that but seems that she wants it rougher still. This is all new territory for me and I'm having trouble pushing this envelope any farther. This is kind of a last resort in the way of finding advice.Anyone, I need suggestions for taking this to the "next level" as far as roughness goes. Again, thank you so much for any ideas. They are truly appreciated.
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reader, BadderzGirl  +, writes (10 November 2009):
you shud really just screw the whole role play skirting around the issue (pardon the pun lol) and literally 'take her'.
seriously.
no B.S, just one night after the kids are in bed and everything's quiet, call her upstairs in a quiet but deadly, seductive fashion but don't come across as too evil :S
call her into the bedroom maintaining the quiet disposition then close the door.
NOTE: before all this make sure it's been a good day and neither of you are in a bad mood. otherwise it's all gonna go down the toilet.
I have some more details that will make your wife VERY happy, but i dont think its suitable to post for all to see . . . so send me a message and i'll finish the little 'instructions' for you.
hopes this will help
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reader, Isaacs +, writes (6 November 2009):
Isaacs is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, after gently broaching the subject about a mock rape scene it was shot down rather quickly. I feel like my marriage is really on the rocks right now. I also feel like I'm the only one even attempting to fix it. Over the last couple of nights we had "role play" night. Which, honestly, got rather good reviews and we had "concert" night, in which I made a complete fool of myself for her amusement. Also getting rather good reviews. The problem is that she hasn't done anything neither to let me know that what I am doing is helping our relationship nor anything herself to help our relationship. After a small argument today she did finally tell me that she thought things were getting much better between us over the last couple of days but said it was just silly that I need her to tell me that. I feel after the severity of some of the issues she brought up that wanting her to tell me that things are getting better is justifiable. I suppose I need more life advice than sex advice it's just that I love this woman more than anything and losing her is not something that I even remotely want. I will do anything I can to keep that from happening. Anyway, I come to you guys for advice on fixing the sexual aspect of our relationship. We do own handcuffs and there are straps tied to our bedposts. Might anyone have a suggestion for something like a slightly rough role playing scene? I've done this once before and that was the other night. I think I'm in way over my head here any help/ideas is greatly appreciated.
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