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51-59,
*r.Ronald
writes:Im starting to wonder if my wife is still in love with me or not. I constantly feel like she is disrespecting me and is simply with me for convienience.Out latest argument was on Halloween when at the bar with her and friends, I would order a drink (jack and coke) and infront of friends and the crowded bar she says "no you cannot order that, order somethig else because you shouldnt have caffine".She said this because I confided in her erlier that week that I suffered from panic attacks 8 years ago before i met her.I ignored her telling me what I could and couldnt have in front of friends all night because it was really embarassing and I was uset with ehr for using private details about my past and anouncing it to everyone.I finally asked her to come talk outside to tell her that she was embarassing me in front of friends and to stop telling what I could drink that holiday and anouncing I "have" (but actually havnt in years) panic attacks.She refused to admit she was doing anything wrong, I got frustrated beacue she wasnt hearing me and telling me to shut up so I took a walk halfway down the block, turned around and she was gone (not to mention with my wallet and car keys stranding me in a city 50 miles from home. I called several times until giving up and finally conviced a friend to help me home.I get home and shes ignoring me completely as if I did something wrong. Im not yelling or calling her names and had not at all since this story started so I dont understand why I'm being ignored?Its now Monday, three days later, and shes still ignoring me and my attempts to explain to her that she did an aweful thing Saturday night stranding me and leaving me wondering if she had been hurt or kiddnapped or something are again ignored.This kinda stuff keeps happening and Im need to know if Im just a fool in love or Im deserving this treatment. Thanks for any advice.I called and texted her repeatedly with no answer.
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reader, Jayney Y +, writes (3 November 2009):
 Definitely a fool in love. She sounds like a pig in lipstick, and why men actually marry these women is a centuries-old mystery. Confiding your personal matters to anyone, let alone a bar full of people, is very uncool, and she needs to grow up and own her behaviour and apologise. If she can't do that then I wouldn't teust her as far as I could kick her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): I dont think you did anything wrong(at all)
You told her your story and she should NOT be telling everyone else about what you are and were telling her.
She may care and be doing this to protect you but still
Being a sixteen year old women I kinda understand why she may have done this but my adivice is not as good as someone who might actually have experience with this type of situation...I would say talk to her and get things fixed.
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reader, 2479  +, writes (2 November 2009):
It sounds like you're having a tough time, especially as she wont talk to you. I can't believe she left you on your own - leaving you without car keys, money. We all do silly things but that's taking it too far. I think you'll just have to get her to talk to you somehow. Maybe start with I love you but I think what you did the other night was well out of order and I would never do that to you.
Maybe you both have to ask yourselves what you want out of the relationship? May be have some time apart, not that that would be easy - emotionally or financially.
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