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writes:My friend put on her facebook status that she was upset so i asked her what was wrong, turns out she had broken up with her boyfriend of 15 months. I asked why and she said its a long story so i said i would go round and have a chat with her over the weekend. I'm never good when handling these situations as i never know what to say. Also, i was thinking of taking a gift bag of a load of sweets, junk food and dvds for a girly night. Any advice on how to handle the situation?? and Also, is this idea good?
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (15 March 2013):
 You sound like a good, considerate friend. Definitely bring her stuff, it will cheer her up. As for what to say, I don't think there are right and wrong things to say. Personally, if I break up with someone, the last thing I want to hear is that I should move on and will find someone new and that my ex wasn't good enough for me and how fun it is being single. If I've just broken up with someone I feel awful and these kinds of things, however well intended, are empty words that make it seem like dealing with a break up is easy, and to be honest it makes me angry and depressed to hear them. Some people can't just move on and find someone else that easily. Let her know that you are there for her and that she can cry and rant and vent all she likes. Be careful what you say about him, though. One of my friends once broke up with her boyfriend, we subsequently spent many hours (days?) slagging him off, after which they got back together. It was pretty awkward because she then knew exactly what I thought about him.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 March 2013):
 Sounds like you've got the start of a good girlfriend bonding evening.
Spend a great deal of time listening, don't offer advice unless asked and if she is stuck in a repetitive groove then let her know, gently.
You don't need to say anything. Just let her know she's your friend and you care about her.
Good luck.
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