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26-29,
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writes: I have liked this girl for around a year and she is amazing. She is smart pretty and Amazing at sports. We both go to the same school and are freshman. We also both do cross country and track, both of which she is amazing at. The only problem is i just dont know how to flirt with her. I try to be funny around her and every time i crack a joke everyone laughs but her, and i wonder if she just doesn't like me? The other problem is she is really close friends with a lot of girls so even if i try to get close to her i am always blocked out by another girl. I really just need to know how to get her to notice me because i do want a relationship.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (25 October 2012):
Hi there. It's okay to be funny sometimes, although it is more an occasional thing rather than the only way of communicating with other people.
Unfortunately, you can't do much about all her friends being around her all the time, that's probably always going to be the way it is, at meal breaks and going off to different classes.
Don't think that you have to flirt all the time to get a girl to like you.
People just want to get to know you and what makes you tick.
Things such as:-
(1) your interests and hobbies
(2) music you like
(3) movies
(4) books you like reading
(5) tv shows
(6) favourite music bands
(7) subjects you are doing in school
To name but a few.
From across a room or when you see her with her friends outside in the grounds, you could always try to make eye contact with her.
Don't overdo it of course, she might think you are trying to stalk her, so you don't want to give that impression to anyone either, do you?
I'm sure you get what I mean though, about making occasional eye contact with her.
And if you happen to pass each other in the halls going off to another class, you could look at her and smile.
And do that each time and eventually, you could smile and say "Hi".
And with more time passing, you might even stop and have a short chat with each other.
As you have said here that both you and her do cross country, well then on one of these occasions, you might find that she is running the same time you are.
The chances are, that she might be on her own at that time.
So that could present an opportunity for you to catch up to her and you could run together.
What could be better than that?
After all, you both have the same interest in what seems to be the same sports, so why not take advantage of that situation?
It would seem to be a perfect opportunity to do that.
And also when you both do track work, there could be some chances to chat to each other, casually.
It is definitely a start, don't you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2012): The best thing, in my opinion, would be to just walk up to her and introduce yourself. Try being as confident as possible. Point out that you have some of the same interests and that you would possibly like to get to know her. You could try asking her what type of music she's into, if she's gone to any concerts recently... things like that. If you're into books, as her what her favorites are. The key is to not be so worked up in front of her. Just talk to her like she's any other girl. She might be shy, so don't take her being quiet as not liking you. Also, if you have any mutual female friends, you could try talking to them. Them being in your age bracket/school should help. Good luck!
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