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writes:I have been married for 8 yrs now. My husband is a great guy. But he isn't very affectionate. Sex is very good not as often as i would like but he is getting older. I have tried to talk to him time and time again about how important kissing is to me and that i need it from time to time. I would be happy with once a week but he says we have been married for 8 years and we don't need to do that anymore. Actually he flat out refused gets angry and tells me if i want someone to kiss i should find a guy who likes it. I know he said that out of anger but it doesn't hurt any less. Does anyone have any advice or have you been through this something similar? It seems like no matter how hard i try to keep things fresh and new he would be happy with his tv and the occational romp.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 December 2014):
 "Does anyone have any advice or have you been through this something similar?
Yes.... you have written that you and he are SEXUALLY/SENSUALLY incompatible. THAT is fatal to any sort of relationship or marriage.....
Get away from him.... stay away from him.... and get on with your life WITHOUT him....
Good luck...
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reader, Online Counsellor  +, writes (30 November 2014):
 Hi,
Sorry to read how sad your husbands comment has left you. I hope that you feel better soon. It could be that your husband is stressed or under pressure, I say that because you said he got angry. Stress and pressure often effects men's libido.
You could try a less direct route and see whats going on in his world, is he stressed at work, has he got pressures which could be effecting him.
Sometimes men will avoid kissing if they feel they aren't up
to love making.
You could consider introducing relationship check-ins into your relationship and see if better communication could help to change the dynamics, a man who is understood and feels supported is more likely to open up emotionally.
I hope you find this useful.
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