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writes: Me and my best mate get on really well when we are at school and we love being together. She has a problem with me because I don't like going out at weekends and holidays and to each others' houses and stuff like that. I'm the sort of person who don't like stuff like that. I do go out occasionally but I don't do that kinda stuff. She knows I don't, but she sometimes has a go at me but it's not my fault; it's the way I am. I don't like doing stuff I don't want to. I am a family person, not a going out person. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, pica +, writes (4 August 2006):
If you want to stay in then stay in but don't be surprised or indignant if your friend makes new friends and does things with them, excluding you. She's having a go at you because she wants to maintain your friendship and do more. You seem to suit each other at school but outside of school you want different things - sorry, but that won't keep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006): Stick to your guns, you are entitled to be exactly who you want to be. I was exactly the same. I would get fed up having to always traipse over to my friends house after getting in from school. I preferred to stay at home and read or watch tv. Even now, though Im in my 30s, I still like nights at home where I can be alone and just completely relax. My best friend always tells me to go round her house and entertain her as she's lonely. When I say no, that I fancy a night in, she moans at me and gives me the silent treatment for a few days and makes out her unhappiness is down to me not doing what she wants. Im not going to make myself unhappy by doing what everyone else wants all the time.
If you dont want to go out, then don't. Dont let her make you feel bad for enjoying your home comforts. You are doing nothing wrong.
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