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writes:i adore my close friend and would love us to date-i know hes fond of me. im scared of him knowing stuff-like how my ex left me edging on bankruptcy thanks to his grasping so im insolvent for 3 more years and my flat looks really bad. i have little money so my floors are bare and everywhere needs decorating. im nso ashamed i can never tell him what can i do-its making me depressed
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 May 2010):
If he likes you that much, he won't care. He really won't. Most men really don't care about money at all. You'll get the occasional one who will try to use a woman. But if this guy likes you that much, and he clearly does, he just won't care.
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reader, Russell101 +, writes (9 May 2010):
From a male point of view (I couldn't help noticing all the previous answers were from females!) it really doesn't matter what sort of financial situation you are in, especially since it was an ex who left you in that state. As long as you obviously like each other and with him being a close friend, I'm certain he will understand if you tell him about it. The main thing to remember is to not get too worked up about it when you're around him because if there's one thing that men don't like, its women who stress out over one thing too much!!
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (9 May 2010):
 Go for it. He's fond of you, and you are not your possessions. If he's a good person he'll understand.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2010): I say go for it. If he really cares about you, he'll understand and will help you pull yourself back up.
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (9 May 2010):
 I understand how you feel...I am in a similar situation with my finances.
But, a year ago, I met the man of my dreams! I was totally honest about my circumstances. He has helped me so much! He gives me advice when I ask for it. But doesn't interfere when not asked for his opinion.
And I am not hiding anything from him...I'm not ashamed of my situation. It wasn't my doing, but my exe's.
Little by little I am improving my status!
I think you should be honest, about your feelings and your finances!
~BG~
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 May 2010):
 If a man is really interested in you ,it is only about you and not your financial situation or your assets.
He will understand your situation and you should not feel ashamed because it was not your doing or fault.
Love do not see the faults of others.
Three years will soon pass and it is only temporary.
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