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writes:My ex and I split up at the end of 2005. We have a son together and spent much of 2006 arguing over him. I finally had enough and started Family Mediation. My ex and I started to get on really well and it's opened up a whole can of worms. He has indicated he would like us to get back together but he has a girlfriend although he says she's 'not the one'. I'd like to believe him but since he is still with her I'm guessing all is not as he is telling. I feel we should remain friends and move on but this has awakended old feelings in me that I am having trouble dealing with.I'd like to move on but feel completely clueless at the moment as to what I should do. I've read other answers to similar questions who say go out and meet new people but I have small children at home and sitters are in very short supply. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Family Mediation does help a lot especially when there are children involved. I am, too, going through a few things with my daughter's father which he is giving me mix signals. Saying one thing but showing me another. Let his word match his actions. Start meeting new people, venture out. Like Lady Destiny mention, let him look after your son while you're out with your friends.
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reader, Lady Destiny* +, writes (4 March 2007):
Hello Clueless... Problems like this occur all the time. There are questions you should ask yourself before you make a decision:1. Has he changed?2. Could you take him back without feeling sick that he has been with someone else?3. What is best for your children?If you just wish to stay friends with your ex then just tell him that you do not want to get back together because the kids are your main priority and he is better off with his new girlfriend. Allow him to see the kids and do not treat him any differently to your other guy friends. Just remember he dumped you! And he has another woman. A new man is what you need. You do not necessarily need to go out to meet people. The best way to find a man is to take your kids along. I know that sounds daft but if you go to the park or ice skating.. you are sure to meet a single man. Kids are a problem when it comes to dating... but the right man will understand. If you are not keen on this method then why not take thum to a creche. Or better yet let their dad look after them. I hope this advice points you in the right direction and give you a clearer veiw on things. Let me know how it goes...Lady Destiny*
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