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writes:Hello Aunts, So I will try to keep it short.About a year and a half ago I moved out of state. After a few months in this city (is kinda like a metro area), I met a guy(A), who I considered one of my bffs, through a dating site. Things we good until we starting meeting more people. Little by little he started becoming distant with me. Well not too long ago his bff (B) came from Mexico. We met and became good friends too. B friend confessed he was having feelings for me, so we started getting to know each other more than friends, a week went by and he just wasnt the same with me. Short story, he hooked up with this other guy, so I decided that the best thing was to stay as friends, but things just werent the same so we stopped being friends. Well, now friend A doesn't really talk to me anymore. I have to mention I resigned from my crazy job a month ago, which is when the whole thing with guy B was going on. Well, since then, guy A doesn't call me to hang out with him and the other guys anymore. Anyway, to keep this short, I've realized that things have changed and that we aren't as close friends as we once were. I have decided to take this on a positive way though. These guys are all about hitting the club every Saturday and drinking, and to be quite honest I was getting tired of that routine. I am young, but I want to start building a good future for myself. I want to focus in getting back to my goals: school, getting closer to God (Yes I am a gay christian), and getting a job where I will learn skills that I can use for the career I am seeking in the future, and eventually a good guy to settle down with. So my thing is that I want to make new friends that have some of the same goals as me. But being 22 years old now, is not easy to meet new people and make friends at this age. I just recently met a guy through craiglist in the activity section, so we have become gym buddies. But my question is how one makes new friends at this age? I like to think myself as a very sociable person, but I just don't know where to go or what to do to make new friends. One could say to talk to my old friends, but I just honestly don't see them as good friends anymore. I always invited them to some events I was part of (which they know it is my passion to be parts of events like those), but the never really attended any of them. I am the type of person that when a friend invites me to something that is important to them, I would make sure I attended, so when I noticed that my so called friends didn;t do the same for me, that really frustrated me. So I am at that point I want to make genuine friends that will actually support me just how I will support them. But I just don;t know where to start.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2014): You're off to a good start….you now have a gym buddy.
From here would recommend checking on the net to see if there are clubs of interest in your area, attend events you enjoy, attend church where you are able to practice your faith with like-minded people, and when you attend college, you will meet a lot of people.
I think if you do the above, feel confident you will make friends with shared interests.
Sometimes friendships wane. It's time to get up and get out and make new friends.
Best of Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2014): Why not search for gay-friendly churches in your area? Join clubs that interest you, take up a new hobby maybe.
I also like inviting people to things, but some people like to have separate hobbies as time to be alone, so it's not a slight against you if you're not invited.
I recently moved countries and I've fortunately now made friends, it helps that I'm still in Uni, but I remember how lonely it was at first, so good luck, you seem warm and open you'll have no problems.
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