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writes:Two years ago I met my current bf. He was a friend of my brothers and we were total opposites. I wasn't interested in dating at the time. I was just ending a long term relationship with my ex who happened to be the father of my one year old son. Even though I wasn't interested in dating we hit it off, I loved his upbeat, loud, carefree, sometimes annoying attitude, he was a tattoo artist who was sharing an apartment with four other guys and he had lived each minute for the minute never thinking about tomorrow.We ended up getting together and he moved in just a few months later. He bonded with son from the beginning and has been an amazing father ever since.My ex has never paid child support , thankfully my parents have been a huge help. Once my bf moved in he wanted to help finically. He considers my son ours and didn't want my family having to pay for things that he felt he should be doing. He got a second job, grew apart form some of single carefree friends and his idea of a fun weekend is playing soccer and watching Toy Story with my son, I am constantly hearing from his friends and family how much he has changed over the past two years, I personally think he grew up. But sometimes I feel like maybe I made him change. He seems happy when we are together but when his friends are around he seems annoyed then they look to me like I'm the reason. His friends have made comments about how he doesn't seem happy or that I sucked the fun out of him.Do you think he would tell me if he wasn't happy? I am right in believe he grew up and just isn't as immature as before ? Or do you think his friends are right and he is trapped in an unhappy relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2014): I think he probably feels he escaped just in time!
party houses have their downsides also and he probably loves being a family more than he lets you know!, life is to be enjoyed and how lucky you are to have a family to enjoy it all with, try and appreciate his friends and enjoy seeing them, your blessed - he sounds a good man, appreciate him and enjoy and be happy
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (5 February 2014):
 You didn't trapped him, life did it ! When a man grows up, he has to give up a lot, and sometimes he loses some things that made his "youthful charm". That's life. And it's not finished, one day, he will even wake up bald like Yul Brynner. That very day, he will need your love more than ever !
My rhetoric question will be: does HE regret to have become like this, or isn't that YOU regret he has lost some of his "fun power" ?
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