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51-59,
anonymous
writes:For the past few years, my sex drive has been so much higher than my husband's. I am starting to feel like a big old slut in comparisson. We usually have sex about once a week, but really, I would rather once a day. I'm starting to take this personally. What can I do? Am I being unreasonable?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): I dont think your feelings are unreasonable, per se. Everyone has different needs, and these needs and feelings dont make us unreasonable, its the way we choose to go about it that makes us unreasonable. Does he know that you would rather be intimate once a day istead of once a week? Communication is key. I am a firm believer that you must be willing to communicate with your partner if you ever have hope of change, be it in your favor or not. Also, please take into consideration the age factor. Most men are battling these type of issues right around their 40's or so. I have noted that women tend to take this personally, but it really is more of a health issue, (whether emotional or physical) and has nothing really to do with whether or not they still find you attractive, or if they are in love with you. So, first things first- Communicate with him. From there you will be able to determine whether this problem can be addressed to your satisfaction. If it comes down to a physical health problem, urge a visit with the doctors. If it comes down to a psycological problem, urge a visit with a therapist. If it is just a preference of his, then perhaps the two of you could come to an acceptable compromise. Above all else dont belittle or pressure him. I promise you that type of behaviour will only aide in pushing him further away from what you ultimately want. Good Luck.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Don't fall for stupid bullshit like the word slut.
That is a subjective word that only imbeciles and jackasses take seriously.
With that said, have you tried to communicate with your husband on the matter?
Relationships are about comprimise. I am sure he would not mind going up to 3 times a week or whatever. However, if he is not interested in satisfying your sexual needs and desires, showing no interest in you, I say leave him.
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