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writes:hey I have a question concerning one of my friends. WE have known each other for quite some time. but just recently have become interested in each other. Like at the moment we are just friends with benefits. But she wants to go out with me. i'd love to go out with her. But people will give me crap about it. she has curves...well a little bit more than. but people will give me crap about it. like some 8th graded thought i was goin out with her and noted he thought she was fat. i warned him if I was goin out with her I'd kick his ass......but seriously I cant go round beatin ppl up cause they dont see my attraction to this girl. But then again if I go out with her I cant let ppl trash talk her to me.any suggestions??
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): 1) If you like this girl you shouldn't care what people think.
2) Ignore people's comments. If somebody says she's 'fat' tell them you dont care about their opinion. They will eventually get bored.
3) Go for it! See where it leads =D It could be the best thing you have ever done, but you dont want to live your life saying what if?'
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Do you need permission from your so called friends before you take a crap??? No, sorry to be so blunt but come on, what the hell does it have to do with them, it is your life, and stop being so pathetic. Ask her out and put two fingers up to these so called friends. Beauty comes from within and i bet she is a gorgeous beautiful person.
take care.
xx
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 So the day before you get married, you're going to ring round to all your friends and check that they approve of your choice? They're not the ones who are planning to live with her or go to bed with her. What business is it of theirs?
And what if your best mate says: "Don't marry her, she's got a mole on her left cheek", are you going to call off the wedding? (If you say to your mate at 50, "You know, I didn't marry that girl because you said she had a mole on her left cheek", he's going to just about have a fit.)
Don't let other people decide who you want to be with. There's a lot of things in life you can't decide yourself because someone (the government, society) doesn't let you. But when it comes to choosing a girlfriend or a lifelong mate, it's YOUR choice. Make that choice yourself, without fear of what other people think.
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reader, Shan14 +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Look, it doesn't matter what other people think. Put yourselve in her shoes... you really like a dude and he likes you too but what's stoping you?what he thinks others think about it. Now I know that would surely hurt her feeling because she will think noone likes her because she's thick.If you really like her, there's no question to if you would go out with her.Obviously she likes you for a reason and excepts your flaws why can't you stop worrying about others and worry about you because it's your life not theirs.I'm telling you from experience, like me for instence,i'm flat chested. Sure boys would make fun and say hurtful things but that didn't matter to my boyfriend(who i've been dating for 2 years lol) anyway he imbraced me and told me it didn't matter because he liked me anyway because i'm a cool person to be around. After that I felt like the beautifulest(however you spell it)girl in the world.It's up to you to make her feel good about herself...tell you the truth FUCK the other bastards that talk about her...their probably jealous and TV and Internet is brainwashing evryone to think skinny is in but guess wat IT'S NOT!!!!!Every woman is beautiful and I hope you remember that. Hope this helped
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Welcome to your first adult decision!
Simple answer (details in a minute): do NOT let others dictate to you when you have an attraction for somebody based on appearance!
Longer answer: personally, it's none of anyone's f*cking business who you choose to be affectionate with. If you care about this woman, great! You obviously see something more than exterior - you are attracted to her as a person... and that would be mind, body and soul. That's pretty damn adult of you to have that kind of insight. But the danger here is to be dating somebody because of (or lack of) your friend/society's approval. That's a slippery slope you don't ever want to be on. Nobody should dictate your likes and dislikes. After all, are you trying to date this woman, or are you trying to gain the approval of others? If you start a relationship with this girl, then be prepared to defend her honor like you would your sister or mother or any other woman near and dear to your heart... and that doesn't mean beating up somebody. It means accepting that there are narrow-minded people in this world and it's your ultimate choice who you want to be associate with (and that's for the "friends" as well as the girlfriend)
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reader, Only_In_Dreams +, writes (16 May 2008):
Why should you care what other people think? If you really like this girl, then you should date her. You might regret it if you don't. You'll never know what you missed out on. If your friends are ragging on the girl then maybe they aren't the type of people you should hang out with. Just give the girl a chance.
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