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*ooddrawer
writes:I'm seeing a physiotherapist just after having surgery, she's about 23 years old, I'm definitely attracted to her physically and a bit emotionally, although I'm not good with emotions or love. My emotions are a bit messed up because I still have very strong feelings for my ex teacher who I haven't seen in two years. I know there's the rules of not having relationships with patients but I still really want to approach her about me liking her. I'd like to be in a relationship and try to make it work, but to be honest If she wanted to have a relationship or just a sexual relationship then I wouldn't mind I'd do whatever she's ok with. Obviously I don't want to effect her work, I know I wouldn't let the relationship get in the way of the patient/therapist relationship and same the other way around. How should I approach her and when would be the right time?
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reader, gooddrawer +, writes (22 February 2013):
gooddrawer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've never liked people my age, I even wish I was older so people wouldn't judge me so much. People my age around where I live just want to get drunk, party, smoke and have hardly any ambition. I hate being judged by my age.I'm not sure if she likes women but if she doesn't then that's just something I can't change.I was and am in love with my ex male teacher, I hate myself for it and suffer for it. I know there are two ways I can think about it, bad and good, most important thing to me is the consequences (if any) for her, I'm not bothered about myself, I have hardly anything to lose anymore if I tell her how I feel.
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reader, gooddrawer +, writes (22 February 2013):
gooddrawer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've never liked people my age, just something I wouldn't even consider one bit, I hate being judged by my age. Most people my age rather smoke, get drunk, no ambitions and nothing in common with me.
I'm not sure if she likes girls.
I do love my ex male teacher, I've suffered so much and still do. I'm still having to think about the consequences for her, I'm not bothered about what happens to myself, I've not got much left to lose anymore, but I understand it would be a lot for her.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 First you were in love with one female caregiver (your teacher), and now you have developed strong feelings for another. I don't think that's a coincidence. And you still haven't got over your ex-teacher after 2 years. That's not really healthy.
Someone working in the medical profession should not get involved with their patients. They do, but it really is frowned upon. It leaves both of you vulnerable, even when the 'care' has been transferred to a colleague.
I think this whole thing is a bad idea but if you really want to go through with it, you should ask her to refer you to another physio and at the same time explain why. If you're lucky, she'll reciprocate your feelings and something might just develop. If she's not interested, at least you won't have to keep seeing her, which you wont like but which will help your feelings fade and be better in the long run.
Sorry to sound negative but I have a bad feeling about this. Good luck, hope it all works out for the best.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 she's a lesbian like you?
once you are done with physiotherapy you ca try it... but you have a crush.... you don't really know her...
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reader, R1 +, writes (15 February 2013):
 You haven't got a chance. She isn't going to give up her career for you which is what you would be asking. She probably gets patients chatting her up all the time and obviously turns them down
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 February 2013):
 REALLY!!!!!! How about you grow up and consider looking at, longing for, and hanging with young women who are more of your age group??????
Good luck...
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reader, human_male  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 She's not going to have a relationship with you. It's not going to happen so get it out of your head. You can tell her that you like her if it will make you feel better, I'm sure she'd be flattered but she will tell you that she's not interested and she may even tell you that she can't treat you anymore and you will have to see a new physio from now on.
It's just a crush. Enjoy it or get over it but realise that it's not going to go anywhere.
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