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30-35,
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writes:soo, there's this guy. we work for the same newspaper (him as an advertising salesman, and me as a reporter). I've been here since March, and he showed up in either late August or early September. I was really excited about that, because I'm the youngest employee up here (I will be 21 on the 11th of this month), and he's only, like, a year and two months older than me, soo, it's nice to have another youngest running around up here and not just be surrounded by a bunch of people who are old enough to have given birth to me! ")hahaa...anyways...in the time that he's been here, I've sort of taken a liking to him. he's an extremely dedicated Christian (who also works as a youth pastor), he's sweet, he looks like Luke Bryan, and his laugh is absolutely contagious! ")we delivered papers together a few weeks ago; it was his first time, and I was the one who got designated to show him the ropes. he invited me to his church the following morning and seemed stoked when I showed up. he has made plans to accept my invitation to my church's Christmas program next month.we flirt every now and again, but I can't figure out if he might possibly be able to picture us as anything beyond friends. I would really like to spend more time with him outside of work, but I'm scared to make a move to do so.i just really don't want it to be weird since we have to sit pretty much side-by-side five days a week! he's on the road selling ads for most of the day, but there would still be plenty of time that I would have to look him in the eye and pretend that nothing had ever gone wrong.my question is, what is something that I could invite him to do outside of work so that we could spend more time together? and how should I go about finding out if he has any feelings for me?any help is GREATLY appreciated!!! ")
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reader, Jynxter +, writes (13 November 2012):
 Not sure you are going to like... or respect what I am going to say... but I think you need to hear the bad news. Many companies have policies that prohibit people from dating others working in the same place. Having made the mistake of dating people where I worked turned out to be a bad idea. While you may ‘click’ initially… what happens if you realize that you have made a mistake and need to end the relationship? It creates a great deal of awkwardness… and problems down the road. Trust me… no matter how adult or mature you plan to be after the split, it never works out that way. Depending on which party called things off, the other party is hurt and can’t help but feel rejected… no matter how hard we try to ‘intellectualize’ the experience. In the end… someone usually changes departments… or jobs to move on with their life. Are you willing to risk that? I realize true love is blind and we all think that things are going to work out for the best… but my experience has taught me otherwise.
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