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writes: Hi, I think my brother and I aren't as close as we should be. My friend has brother too, but they so close when I heard her talk about her brother I just thought "why aren't my brother and I like that?" Maybe cause we're different ages, I'm 18 and he's 14 years old. I want to be close to brother more than now, What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, MLP86 +, writes (23 July 2005):
my bro and i are 2 years apart and i would give anything for him to even come home every once and a while, just pay attention to him and once he hits 15 or 16 you will have more in common. Dont ever lat a girl get in the way of that, nothing is more important than family.
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reader, schlottjl  +, writes (20 July 2005):
 Oh I am about to cry for happiness here. You are the same age difference as me and my bro. Only now I'm 34!
It is a little tougher to be actual friends at this age but now is the time to begin to build for your future. He is about to begin his journey through the hard years and you can be his confidant.
If he starts at the same high school you went to this is a great place to start. Try to take a little bit of time each week and find out what he is up to. Try to just listen to him in the beginning since he may be different than you and you don't want to suppose incorrectly.
As you do this, you will learn the name of his friends and the ins-and -outs of his hobbies/ activities. Offer to cart he and his friends around so they can get out (or out further than he otherwise would have been allowed to without an adult.)
Offer to be the one to come to for the difficult questions that he might have that are too embarrassing to go to parents for. But if you do this, realize you are in a way parenting him and therefore, have assumed some responsibility for him. But if you are willing to walk a balance here, trust can be built and advice that the older sibling refuses (unfortunately) may be taken (fortunately) by the younger sib.
There is no relationship more special in my opinion than a sib friendship. When I was eighteen I only just started building my relationship with my bro. But the smallest attempts go along way and once things get going, it is fascinating to see them as a separate and growing person (man).
Cherish your time together even if he can be annoying (and 14 can be annoying!) I am now 34 but my bro is forever 26. I will miss him forever since the night he drove off to work and I never saw him again. If you and your bro someday become great friends, please say a prayer and thank Ryan. Perhaps he has already helped. It is not coincidence that I turn on my computer and see your post today. It is in the little ways that he lives on with me.
Now go learn about the one that came from the same bakery, same recipe, and same cook as you!
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