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writes:I was hanging out with this guy off and on for 3 yrs. We never but a label on what we were. I mean it was like we were bf and gf. Anyhow he's mad at me and not talking 2 me now. We've been through this before him getting mad and not talking 2,but eventually he would talk 2 me again. We haven't talked in almost a month. The reason he's mad at me is bc one night he was ignoring me and i got mad and told him i was deleting his number and he should do the same with mine. Well also i ask his friend why he was being an ass 2 me. I think that's the main reason he got mad at. After that he told me 2 leave his freinds alone. Which i think it's kinda crazy him getting mad at me 4 askin his friend a question. Anyhow i'm thinking about askn him if he wants 2 go see Jeff Dunham with me. I would just like 2 make it up 2 him 4 the way i reacted. I mean yes i know it's possible he might ignore me. If he does he does. I just thought it would b nice 2 try and make things right between us. I don't want things 2 go back 2 the way they were before. I just would like 2 b friends again. If i do decide 2 ask him,how would i word it exactly? Reply to this Question
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reader, SillyB +, writes (15 June 2010):
 Okay you should hear this:You did NOTHING wrong. When someone, a 'boyfriend' ignores you, you SHOULD call them out on it. Like you did. What you did was not significant compared to him ignoring you for the last month. He doesn't love you babe. In fact, he used a silly tiff and made it into something bigger. My hunch is he did this for his own selfish purposes.He's sleeping around or dating other people hun. Making a big fight out of nothing and then not talking to you for a month helps him justify his actions while away from you.When his little fling is over, he'll try to come back for the comfort. After three years I'm sure he sees the pattern that you're always going to be around for him. He is disrespctful towards you and uses you!Stay away from him. There are loads of men out there. Start dating. You'll see that there will be men out there that will want to call you GF and see you every day.
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reader, oreides +, writes (15 June 2010):
 sounds like drama. don't say things you don't mean, especially using threats to hold the relationship hostage. he may not want to make up with you, and i don't blame him. but it also sounds like, from the beginning, this wasn't serious enough to clarify... sorry but it sounds like it's time to move on. you can't manipulate the situation to your best interest... but you can accept and embrace it as a learning experience.
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