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writes:Helllo, hope you can help me with something!It isn't a big deal but I would like some input on this issue because it's bothering me a bit. :)I drive, and my boyfriend doesn't. We live about a 50 mins drive apart, and fairly often I drive over to his house on week-day evenings to see him when he's home from work. Which is great! However, I don't like having the responsibility of organizing these week-day visits every time. I appreciate that as I'm the one driving it is mostly my responsibility (it depends if I have enough petrol, for example) but I don't really like having to always be the one that asks 'shall I come over a night this week?' I've told my boyfriend that I'd prefer if he would ask about these visits too, and he has done once or twice, but I still do it more often. We both enjoy these visits (who doesn't love cuddle time after a long day?) but I really would love it if he suggested them more often. Usually I'll ask about it early in the week. Do you think I should try not suggesting for a little while, to see if that prompts him to ask himself? Again, this isn't a massive issue but I'd like a second opinion on it if possible, what do you think? Thanks a lot! [Mod note: the question originates in the UK, for those Americans wondering why she used the word "petrol" to describe the fuel for the car.] Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 December 2012):
 Just let him know that you are always up for a visit but since you fear he's not as happy about it as you, from now on you will wait for an invite.
Word of caution... do not jump when he calls at the last minute.
Make him ask in advance.
He may not ask to see you till he realizes you have stopped rowing the relationship boat.
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reader, SouthbySouthEast  +, writes (2 December 2012):
Definitely hold off and see if this provokes his organisational skills!
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