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writes:My current boyfriend is bi-sexual,i don't really care because i know he only loves me...Your going to think this is a stupid question but he has had rumors and the only one that's true it that he's bi. He's also 4 years older than me,and the people that don't know him,go by what other people say and his rumors and think he's a skank....I REALLY love him but i'm scared if what would happen if the rest of the school found out.If only they knew what he was REALLY like,than it wouldn't be so hard...Being quite popular with MOST people i may br hated or considered a skannk for the rest of my school years if people find out... PLEASE HELP!!!AND don't give me all this shit about,if yu love him than don't worry about anyone else,because,if u have been in my situation,you would know why that's a stupid answer....(didn't mean that in a rude way)I'm not sure how to take the situation:s Reply to this Question
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (8 August 2008):
 sticks and stones may break my bones but names shall never hurt me !!! i know it hurts but their isnt much you can do other than support each other threw this crappy time things will get better things has a funny way of sorting themselves out. as she says you can retort with why is he with you if he wants something else. but in the end ignore the harsh words and think how pathetic they are to stoop low to that level because their is something wrong in their own lives! be happy you have each other and love so true.. good luck aphex xx
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 I was actually in HIS situation. Many people spread rumors that I was a lesbian (they were close, I'm bi) but it wasn't very fun when I was at school. Once I started going out with my boyfriend, many people just forgot the previous and realized that they were wrong to assume that and almost everyone stopped. It was a good thing to happen because I realized who were my true friends and who weren't.
Now it's just so sad that you are worrying about YOUR reputation about this whole ordeal. And us telling you that if we told you really loved him you wouldn't care is a shitty answer it's basically ignorant. That answer is the truth. If you love someone, you'll overcome adversity. Look at the interracial couples, or gay couples, for example. Do you think that if they had given in to all the hateful comments towards them they would have stuck together? Because they loved each other, they overcame everything. And they were in a WORSE situation than yours. They loved each other, and that was their answer. Please, don't make this worse than it actually is.
I understand that schoold is quiet harsh on people. Heck, I've been bullied and made fun of JUST because I was smarter than most girls and I got along with guys, but since I had the support of my friends and I basically never cared for other's comments, everything passed by from me.
But really, once people see he's going out with a woman, the rumors will subside at least. They will probably not go away as soon as you want, but at least they will not fly as often as it did now.
So the best thing to do is to NOT listen to any negative comments about your boyfriend. Tell anyone that if he were truely bi (or gay because they might say that) then why the hell he is with you! That will certainly shut almost everyone up. So, in the end, I will tell you the answer you don't want to hear. If you really love him, the whole rumor thing will be ignored by you and you will only care he's with you. But think about this: What is more important for you? Your reputation or the boyfriend you claim to really love?
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