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*kta Magdelene
writes:I'm 18 years old nd m in a relation since last 4 months. We both kiss each other and he touches my breasts nd kisses them. I have allowed him to do so and I dont have any problem with this. But he tried to touch my lower private parts 3-4 times and I didn't let him to do so coz I 'm not comfortable in this. The last time when I didn't let him do this he got angry and since then he decided not to touch me. No hugs no kisses nothing. He doesn't even hold my hands. I have tried to talk about this several times but he simply doesn't reply or goes offline. He doesn't talk about this since that day. He doesn't talk to me well and ignores me. He doesn't replies to my messages and doesn't pick up my calls and neither he calls me himself nor he msgs me. I think he's bored and does not love me anymore. He also seems to have problem with my best friend who's a boy. But he never shares his problem and feelings with me. I think perhaps I was too fast in letting him do everything. Plz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2014): I think it is time to break up with him.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (4 July 2014):
 Please don't let this guy manipulate you into touching you or doing more when you are not comfortable with it. He is giving you the cold shoulder in the hope you will let him do what he wants. The fact he gets ANGRY when you wont let him touch you in the way he wants shows he is not a nice person. Find someone more respectful.
I don't think its because he is bored or doesn't love you anymore, rather that he just wants to get sex. Dont waste anymore time wit this guy as he is not worth it.
Besides you are 18 right? an Adult? Then why go out with someone who sulks like a silly kid because you wont let him do an adult act???
Mark
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reader, Ekta Magdelene +, writes (4 July 2014):
Ekta Magdelene is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIs it time for a break up????
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2014): I think you should find someone who is nicer to you and can respect that you don't want to do certain things sexually until you are comfortable and make sure when the time comes he gets tested so you know he doesn't have any sexually transmitted diseases and that you use protection. He is acting like a child instead of a man. You deserve better. Good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 July 2014):
 I don't think either of you rushed things. Quite the opposite I think he's sexually frustrated. Here 3rd date sex is common. People would wait 3 months maximum. It doesn't mean disrespect when you give in. It is a mutual and enjoyable thing. Your English is quite good so I am guessing you are in the more westernized part of the country while in other parts there's not dating, and arranged marriage is the norm. If you have the freedom to choose who to date then you are also liberated from restraints passed on to you by tradition. It is very challenging if you try to have double standards with chastity and freedom mixed in together.
Being 18 I understand, a lot of girls are not ready for sex and I don't blame you. He is at a hormonal rage stage and his heart does not wait. He wants what he wants and unfortunately he is not able to communicate this and just assumes that if you love him then you would have sex with him. There is no effective communication. That's okay. You will learn. If he doesn't reply your messages there is nothing you can do. The problem is that you don't feel an emotional connection with him and he doesn't see the importance but feels entitled to sex because he waited 4 months.
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