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writes:Am I in love? I think about her constantly-I can't get my mind off her. Everything reminds me of her, and something inside me hurts when I realise I won't see her for however long. My heart flutters whenever I see her, and I agonise constantly over everything she has ever said to me, and everything she does when she's around me.And now the problem: She's my teacher.I had her as my english teacher in year 9. To begin with, I didn't like her: she was replacing this really nice teacher I'd had the year before. She was new at the school, so I don't know if she was trying to get us (my class) to like her, but I began to like her more and more. Before the Christmas break I suddenly realised I was in love with her.I went through what everyone in love with a teacher has been through: the extra hard work, grades shooting up, etc. I never thought she liked me more than a student, or a friend at a push. Then this year, I came back to school hoping against hope I would have for english again. I didn't. But one of my best friends did. So I'm constantly hanging around with that friend of mine, especially in the breaks between english lessons. And whenever this teacher sees me, she's always really nice to me. Obviously I'm just the hard-working kid to her, and she wants to know how I'm getting on. She has no idea how I feel about her. I just don't know why I had to fall in love (that's what I think it is) with her. I've taken other advice, tried to distract myself from her, immerse myself in boys, whatever. None of it works.The second things is that I can't tell any of my friends. When I was working so hard at english last year, they all decided I fancied her-in a jokey way obviously. So I was teased about it constantly. It still goes on now. This means I could never admit to it, as I've spent alomost a year denying it. And I don't think they'd accept it-I'm a a private school in England, full of girls with blonde hair and blue eyes who are dating a guy in almost all of their classes, and they'll grow up and marry him.The short of it is I'm in love with my teacher, I don't know how to get over it, and I don't know if I'm bi, gay or straight. I'm sorry it was so long and confusing!Thanks (in advance), for your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat bad qualities? That's my problem!I really don't think I could tell any of my friends...they'd never accept it...Thanks for all the help so far!
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (18 December 2008):
 I'm in a very similar situation!
I have loved my english teacher since febuary (and i still do) but when i first had her back in year 10 i hated her. I felt as if she was constantly critising my work and being mean to me. Then my feelings started changing. I get on really well with her and have long conversations with her and because of this, my friends, like yours, are constantly teasing me too and assuming i fancy her but i always deny it. I've only told a couple of my friends the truth (and they actually took it well)Are you sure you can't tell any of your friends about it, because it really does help-trust me! :)
Don't worry about the whole bi/straight/lesbian thing. At first i was really worried but then realised it's natural to have same sex crushes/obsessions etc...
To get over her why don't you focus on her 'bad' qualities and see if that puts you off her at all?
I hope this helps!
Xx-Scorpio-xX
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reader, samsmommy  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 It sounds like you really care about your teacher, but is it just a thing where you like her or do you actually want to act on it? I don't know if you're bi, gay, or straight, either. Some people go thru a phase where they are confused and uncertain about their sexuality, especially at your age. I'm not really sure exactly what you're asking but I think you should try to forget about her, even though you say you've tried and you can't, because you're going to cause nothing but heartache for yourself.
As much as you may like her, you're thinking about a relationship that's unrealistic. Even if she had feelings for you (I don't know how old she is but most likely too old to date you), you can't expect her to risk her job to pursue this relationship. I hope I addressed what you were asking and I hope I helped.
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